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Dog: a Poem About a Flâneur

The philosophically complex poem Dog, by Lawrence Ferlinghetti, describes the carefree, independent wandering of a curious yet serious inquisitor of life and meaning in an urban environment. Dog appears in a collection of seven “oral messages” conceived specifically for jazz accompaniment, rather than as poems written for the printed page. They all appeared, however, on the printed page of a book titled A Coney Island of the Mind (1958).

The Poet

For his vivid imagery and classical mythology references, Lawrence Ferlinghetti is one of my favorite poets. He played a crucial role of publisher through his City Lights Bookstore in the San Francisco literary “Beat” scene. He is better placed with the pre-beats like Gary Snyder, Kenneth Rexroth, and William Carlos Williams. That said, this poem and others in the collection embody core tenets of the Beat literary movement: individuality, rejection of societal norms and hierarchies, and an emphasis on authentic existence, curiosity, and direct experience.

From left, Bob Donlon, Neal Cassady, Allen Ginsberg, Robert LaVigne and Lawrence Ferlinghetti stand outside Ferlinghetti’s City Lights Bookstore in San Francisco’s North Beach neighborhood in 1956. (Allen Ginsberg LLC/Corbis via Getty Images)

The Poem

Dog’s meandering and observing through the streets of San Francisco—his flânerie, if you will—begs us to question our assumptions of reality. Ferlinghetti’s personification of the dog challenges us to question our biases and filtered sense of reality, constrained, as we are, by social rules and expectations.

Dog

The dog trots freely in the street
and sees reality
and the things he sees
are bigger than himself
and the things he sees
are his reality
Drunks in doorways
Moons on trees
The dog trots freely thru the street
and the things he sees
are smaller than himself
Fish on newsprint
Ants in holes
Chickens in Chinatown windows
their heads a block away
The dog trots freely in the street
and the things he smells
smell something like himself
The dog trots freely in the street
past puddles and babies
cats and cigars
poolrooms and policemen
He doesn’t hate cops
He merely has no use for them
and he goes past them
and past the dead cows hung up whole
in front of the San Francisco Meat Market
He would rather eat a tender cow
than a tough policeman
though either might do
And he goes past the Romeo Ravioli Factory
and past Coit’s Tower
and past Congressman Doyle
He’s afraid of Coit’s Tower
but he’s not afraid of Congressman Doyle
although what he hears is very discouraging
very depressing
very absurd
to a sad young dog like himself
to a serious dog like himself
But he has his own free world to live in
His own fleas to eat
He will not be muzzled
Congressman Doyle is just another
fire hydrant
to him
The dog trots freely in the street
and has his own dog’s life to live
and to think about
and to reflect upon
touching and tasting and testing everything
investigating everything
without benefit of perjury
a real realist
with a real tale to tell
and a real tail to tell it with
a real live
              barking
                         democratic dog
engaged in real
                      free enterprise
with something to say
                             about ontology
something to say
                        about reality
                                        and how to see it
                                                               and how to hear it
with his head cocked sideways
                                       at streetcorners
as if he is just about to have
                                       his picture taken
                                                             for Victor Records
                                  listening for
                                                   His Master’s Voice
                      and looking
                                       like a living questionmark
                                                                 into the
                                                              great gramaphone
                                                           of puzzling existence
                 with its wondrous hollow horn
                         which always seems
                     just about to spout forth
                                                      some Victorious answer
                                                              to everything

Analysis

Dog starts as a naively curious and instinctual canine. But by exploring a series of images, following his eyes, nose, and ears through the city-scape, the dog becomes ever more human. In the end, Ferlinghetti’s dog is a sad and serious inquisitor of the reality of existence and the meaning of life. I profer Ferlinghetti’s dog transcends the role of a mere pet and becomes a perfect metaphor for our Flâneur Moderne et Inquiet.

The major themes of the poem include (1) a democratic spirit of freedom, independence, and individualism, (2) an unbiased, unfiltered perception of reality, and (3) an ongoing quest for meaning and the nature of existence. Now let’s go through Ferlinghetti’s eighty-four lines of free verse, beyond the surface imagery, allusions, similes, and metaphors, to find these deeper themes.

Democratic Spirit of Freedom, Independence, and Individualism

The poem begins, by introducing “dog” as a free and independent creature that “trots freely in the street.” This idea is reiterated in lines 9, 16, 19, and 47. This reiteration—repetition—effectively emphasizes the dog’s freedom. In lines 23 and 24 we first learn of the dog’s indifference to authority figures, in this case, a policeman. Later in lines 33 and 35, we learn this indifference extends to prominent political figures. Policemen he would eat if he had to (lines 29-30), but he considers the congressman no better (or more useful?) than a fire hydrant (lines 44-46).

Aside: Congressman Doyle

Clyde Gilman Doyle was elected as a Democrat to the 79th and 81st Congress as a representative of California’s 18th and 23rd districts. It was his service on the House Un-American Activities Committee that probably caused him to be herein not feared but compared to a fire hydrant. Ferlinghetti was a self-identified philosophical anarchist and espoused Scandanavian-style democratic socialism. The American government’s investigation of free speech it believed to be communist, socialist, or “un-American,” was the job of the HUAC. Ferlinghetti’s democratic dog would find this “discouraging,” “depressing,” and “absurd.”

Despite the “sad young dog[’s]” disillusionment from the news of Congressman Doyle, we see that he rejects control and censorship—“he will not be muzzled” (line 43). Line 39, “to a sad young dog like himself,” is a reference to Dylan Thomas’ Portrait of an Artist as a Young Dog, (that I have never read, so don’t ask me what that means).

So that there is nothing left to question, we are told the dog:

he has his own free world to live in (41)
and has his own dog’s life to live (48)
and to think about (49)
a real live/barking/democratic dog (57-59)
engaged in real/free enterprise (60-61)

Unfiltered, Unbiased, Non-judgemental Perception of Reality

Right up front, in lines 2, 5, and 6, we learn the dog “sees reality,” “and the things he sees are his reality.” Hinting at a sense of wonder, we are told he sees things that are “bigger than himself” (line 4). Furthermore, he is also curious about things that are “smaller than himself” and even things that are “something like himself” (line 18).

The dog is “serious” in his wanderings. He is both introspective about “his own dog’s life to live/and to think about/and to reflect upon,” and curious of the world “touching and tasting and testing everything/investigating everything/without benefit of perjury.”

Again, in line 54, we are told he is “a real realist.” Because of this realism, he has “something to say/about ontology/something to say about reality/and how to see it/and how to hear it.” It is here where the dog transitions from just experiencing with all five senses to philosophizing about reality.

Aside: Ontology

According to Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary, ‘ontology’ is “a branch of metaphysics concerned with the nature and relations of being” or “a particular theory about the nature of being or the kinds of things that have existence.”

Ontology is the branch of metaphysics that investigates the nature of existence, what all entities have in common, and how they are divided into basic categories of being.

Wikipedia.org

The term ‘ontology’ can also refer to a specific ontological theory within a discipline and can also mean a conceptual scheme or inventory of a particular domain. There are various schools of thought in ontology. Apropos to the poem is Realism. We have already learned that the dog is a “real realist.” Ontological Realism is the view that there are objective facts about what exists and what the nature and categories of being are.

An Ongoing Quest for Meaning and the Nature of Existence

After the reiteration of “The dog trots freely in the street” (line 47), the poem reaffirms the dog’s introspective and inquisitive nature—having “his own dog’s life to live/and to think about/and to reflect upon” (lines 48-50). The dog’s curiosity comes up again in lines 51-52 where he is “touching and tasting and testing everything/investigating everything,” and again “with his head cocked sideways/at street corners/as if he is just about to have/his picture taken” (lines 68-71).

The rhythm of the free verse gives you a sense of the meandering nature of the dog’s journey, enhanced perhaps by the wandering away from the flush margins in lines 58-59, 61, 63, 65-67, 69, and 71-84. It’s in this section that the rhythm and pace seem to rush us towards a final point.

What is the point to which the dog, and the reader therewith, is headed? We’ve already mentioned ontology—that branch of metaphysics concerned with the nature of existence. In lines 73-74 dog is “listening for/His Master’s Voice/and looking/like a living questionmark/into the/great gramophone/of puzzling existence.”

Finally, in lines 80-84, the gramophone as a metaphor “with its wondrous hollow horn/which always seems/just about to spout forth/some Victorious answer/to everything.” Are we disappointed at the lack of an answer? Not if we understand the journey is the meaning, not the destination.

Dog as Flâneur?

By now this shouldn’t be too hard to imagine. First, dog seems to be heartily engaged in what Honré de Balzac called “gastronomy of the eye.”

Fish in newsprint
Ants in holes
Chickens in Chinatown windows
their heads a block away

and past the dead cows hung up whole
in front of the San Francisco Meat Market
He would rather eat a tender cow
than a tough policeman
though either might do
…past the Romeo Ravioli Factory

This matches Charles Baudelaire’s “passionate spectator” who he described as an avid observer and connoisseur of the urban experience, able to find beauty in life’s transient, fugacious aspects.

Drunks in doorways
Moons on trees [lamp posts, I think]

past puddles and babies
cats and cigars
poolrooms and policemen

touching and tasting and testing everything
investigating everything
without benefit of perjury

Walter Benjamin describes the flâneur as an amateur detective and investigator—navigating the city with a detached yet observant demeanor—witnessing the ebb and flow of city life without direct engagement or influence.

he’s not afraid of Congressman Doyle
although what he hears is very discouraging
very depressing
very absurd
to a sad young dog like himself
to a serious dog like himself

Constellation of Flâneur Characteristics

Let’s match Dog to the characteristics of a Flâneur Moderne et Inquiet.

Flâneurs are peripetetic wanderers

The dog trots freely in the street

The dog trots freely thru the street

Flâneurs are observers

and sees reality
and the things he sees
are bigger than himself
and the things he sees
are his reality

and the things he sees
are smaller than himself

and the things he smells
smell something like himself

Flâneurs are documentarians

with a real tale to tell
and a real tail to tell it with

with something to say
                             about ontology
something to say
                        about reality
                                        and how to see it
                                                               and how to hear it

Flâneurs are experimenters

touching and tasting and testing everything
investigating everything
without benefit of perjury

Flâneurs focus on the present

But he has his own free world to live in
His own fleas to eat

and has his own dog’s life to live

Flâneurs seek meaning

and to think about
and to reflect upon

listening for
                                                   His Master’s Voice
                      and looking
                                       like a living questionmark
                                                                 into the
                                                              great gramophone
                                                           of puzzling existence
                 with its wondrous hollow horn
                         which always seems
                     just about to spout forth
                                                      some Victorious answer
                                                              to everything

That’s all I have to say about that.

Check out this video to hear Ferlinghetti reciting Dog as he meant it to be done with a jazz accompaniment.

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Update to “Poppa’s Got a Brand New Bag”

I left a few things open-ended and unanswered in the last article about my new EDC bag. I’m back with this post as an addendum of sorts. I will answer some of those questions and make some corrections.

Corrections? Sort of. Now that I’ve had the new bag out in the wild, so to speak, I’ve made a few minor adjustments to the contents. A few things went back in. There are some small additions. Also, thanks in part to a “Whaleliner,” something I was considering, I decided against altogether.

I also carried the bag into a concert venue in downtown Cleveland. Therefore, I have a few more things to say about “security theater.”

Bag Modifications

I took the shoulder strap off an old Timbuktu messenger bag. I removed the canvas portion from the shoulder strap of the Wotancraft bag. I replaced it with a modification of the Timbuktu strap. This gives me a rapidly adjustable shoulder strap—infinitely more useful. Easier to get the bag off and on and to get into when I need something.

Content Changes

Over the past month, I’ve made a few changes to the content. Let’s take a look.

First, the small plastic signal mirror came out. This is a duplicate of one in the small “survival kit.” Also in that kit is a small striker and several wads of tinder. I had forgotten these were in there. On top of this, an original Whaleliner pointed out the unlikeliness of needing to start a fire in an urban environment. Despite what I said here, I won’t be adding another firestarter.

I did add my retirement gift, an Opinel knife from France. Locks closed and open. Wooden handle. Light and sharp. By the way, this knife was in the bag when I went through the security bag check at the concert. More about that later.

Before going to the concert, I also added my retirement credentials. This was an insurance policy of sorts. Upon discovery of some dangerous contraband—like a whistle or flashlight (these are listed as not allowed on the concert venue’s website)—I could produce these and beg forgiveness. I’m planning to deposit it in the car where they could be most useful in an emergency. Not to ‘badge’ another officer, as I find that practice repugnant and deplorable.

The NARCAN is stashed now in the green REI zippered pouch. This gives me a bit more room in the GSW kit. Not enough, unfortunately, for the SOFT-T. I will still need to buy a SWAT-T.

I do not like the weight of the camera. So, I removed the “Peak Designs Capture” clip. I put that in the grey drawstring bag with the tools and the spare camera battery. If I carry the camera for some purpose, I can drop the grey bag into the main bag.

The RadioShack rechargeable battery, cables, and wall plug are back in the small REI zippered pouch. I added a flash drive that downloads from the iPhone. I put a lens cloth in the other small zippered pouch with the dental floss and lip balm.

Lastly, since it has so many uses and is so light in weight, I put the red neckerchief back in. I have several rubber bands around this to keep it rolled up and because they are so handy to have.

During a recent outing, Kathleen needed a hair band. She had to settle for one of my rubber bands. With that in mind, I added a hairband around the neckerchief. It will be there next time she needs it.

Security Theater

As described, this bag went through a bag check at a concert I recently attended. All of my EDC, except the folding karambit (which I left at home) and my money clip, went into the Wotancraft bag. I opened the two larger pockets and placed the bag in the bin next to the magnetometer, smiling and saying, “Here you go.” Stepping through, I heard the tones I was expecting, indicating I had metal on my person.

To the question, “Sir, do you have anything in your pockets?” I produced my handkerchief and metal money clip and said, “Oh, I’m sorry! I forgot about this.” I backed up, put the money clip into the bin next to my bag, and stepped back through at the attendant’s request. The warning tones again.

“Sir?”

“It must be my watch or belt,” I said as I patted my pockets and pointed to my watch. Or maybe my pants or shoes?”

“Okay, that’s fine. Thank you,” was the reply. I picked up my bag, zipped up, and moved on into the crowd.

Here’s the thing. It is my experience that private event security rarely understands the sensitivity of magnetometers—the walk-through units or the wands. Watches, money clips, belt buckles, and even rivets on jeans and eyelets on boots confuse them (the people, not the machines) if you offer them as potential. This is why TSA doesn’t rely on them.

Inside my bag that night, as always, were four other pouches zipped closed. NONE of these were opened or checked. I wasn’t, but almost certainly could have been, armed in the arena.

I write this not to brag but to warn. For if I could have, so could others. On top of that, most private event security is designed to prevent by posture, by putting on a good show. This theater keeps out the less sophisticated malfeasants and catches the most obvious problems. These are good things. But they are not perfect.

Only human beings can look directly at something, have all the information they need to make an accurate prediction, perhaps even momentarily make the accurate prediction, and then say that isn’t so.

Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence

I encourage you not to break event security policies but to be tactically aware of your environment. Or at least listen to those in your party who are in touch with what Gavin de Becker calls your “gift of fear.”

Denial is a save now, pay later scheme.

Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence
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Personal Leadership & Management Part V: Personal Management Overview

We have finally arrived at the transition from ‘leadership’ to ‘management.’ Back in parts I-IV we talked about ‘Personal Leadership.’ That was all about your Ultimate Mission and Grand Strategy, Roles or Identities, “Sharpening the Saw,” and finding your purpose, values, character strengths, principles, and virtues.

  • Part I: From Management to Leadership With Your Personal Credo
  • Part II: Exercises and Practices
  • Part III: Roles and Identities
  • Part IV: The Ultimate Mission and Grand Strategy

So parts one through four are all the high-level strategy, purpose, and meaning stuff: are we climbing the right mountain? Are we on the right road to the right goals for our Ultimate Purpose?

Personal Management is all about day-to-day actions taken to accomplish your high-level strategies—the actions in service to your purpose. What you want to be is all for naught if you don’t work on it consistently.

Wish in one hand and shit in the other; see which one fills up first.

Jack Cagle

Put a different way:

A vision without a task is but a dream. A task without a vision is drudgery. A vision and a task are the hope of the world.

Inscription on a church wall in Sussex England, c. 1730

Strategies or Tactics? Both, Actually

The terms ’strategy’ and ‘tactics’ come from military terminology as far back as Sun Tzu’s Art of War. They’ve been adapted to fit different usages such as business strategy.

Have you ever gone to the grocery store without a list or plan? Then tried to fix meals for the next week with a random assortment of groceries? There were probably things you needed but forgot to get, and maybe things you didn’t need that went to waste later that week. Meal planning and a grocery list is a strategy; shopping is the tactic.

Strategy

A strategy is an action plan that you will take in the future to achieve an end. These help you define your long-term goals and how you will achieve a goal. Strategy is the big-picture thinking.

Tactics

Tactics are the individual steps and actions that will get you where the strategy—the action plan or leader’s intent—wants you to go. Tactics zoom in on the nitty-gritty, dealing with the day-to-day operational and short-term objectives. They encompass concrete steps—the how-to steps to turn your overall plan into reality.

All men can see the tactics whereby I conquer, but what none can see is the strategy out of which victory is evolved.

Sun Tzu, The Art of War

Sun Tzu illustrates that while tactics are more concrete and easier to see, an overarching strategy is equally important. The question should not be strategy versus tactics, but strategy and tactics. These are two sides of the same coin—both are necessary.

Strategy without tactics is the slowest route to victory. Tactics without strategy is the noise before the defeat.

Sun Tzu, The Art of War

The point is, before getting deep into the tactical weeds, clarify our strategy.

If you’ve been following along in parts I through IV, you will have developed your Grand Strategy and Domain Strategies. Strategy for projects and training missions are similar. Furthermore, these should be in alignment with your domain and grand strategy.

With strategy in place, you can learn, develop, or adopt tactics to achieve the leader’s (your) intent. These become your best practices to accomplish your strategic goal. You are using tactics when conducting actions on ‘the target’—your strategic goal. When in doubt as to the next actions or priorities, return to your strategies. From there re-orient, and re-engage. More specifics about this to follow in Parts VI and VII.

What Else?

One of the reasons I have delayed so long in drafting this second half—Personal Management—is that my methods have recently changed. Somewhat drastically. I wasn’t certain that my past or current methods would be useful to my audience. I decided that while specific methods may or may not be useful, the principles could be.

Methods are many. Principles are few. Methods may change, but principles never do.

Apocrypha

Therefore, we will talk a lot about principles and some about ‘best practices.’ Somewhat less about methods. I’ll use my own situation to explain my changes. In due course, I’ll also illustrate old and new methods that you may (or may not) find useful.

Absorb what is useful, discard what is useless, and add what is specifically your own.

Bruce Lee

There are many ‘ways’ that might fit your needs and personality and many that might not. Beyond the principles, this workflow should be organic—evolving to your idiosyncrasies.

Starting with Part VI, I’ll walk through my current system with a focus on principles. That is, why my system is my way. I’ll talk also about my current methods. Furthermore, I’ll pepper in past methods you may find helpful, and explain why they worked ‘then’ and why they don’t work ‘now.’

In Part VI we will start with an overview of David Allen’s Getting Things Done. For all of its simplicity, and despite all of its critics, it has been at the core of my system for 20-plus years. When I first stumbled upon it, it just fit. We will take a deeper dive into some of the particulars: “collect,” “process,” “organize,” and “review.” I’ll clarify as best I can my spin on these core principles.

Using “Organize” to segue, in Part VII we will return to Stephen Covey—his “role-based goals.” With these we will develop a “weekly attack plan” and daily planning. Here, too, we will discuss context- and time- (calendar) based lists, and how these merge into the weekly planning.

Next, in Part VIII, we will talk about projects and David Allen’s “Natural Planning Model.” The name is his, but he readily admits he didn’t invent the method. He merely details how the brain naturally works and scales that up. Part VIII is where we will also talk about “Training Missions” and the benefits of a “Personal Lab Notebook.”

Lastly, in Part IX, I’ll explain how I use Tiago Forte’s “second brain” system for my reference and project files. Finally, I’ll also describe any tools—analog and digital—that I haven’t elsewhere described. Some people get hung up on tools and bounce from one shiny new app to another. Truth is, once you know the principles, any tool will work.

That should be enough to map out our way forward. See you soon for Part VI.

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“Papa’s Got a Brand New Bag”

Satchel. Murse. Man-bag. Call it what you will, I’ll always carry one. Oh, and to all you trendy youngsters with the “cross-body” bags and “slings,” quit fooling yourself. Those are just overpriced fanny packs with the 1980’s dust knocked off of them and the “OP” label replaced with a “Lulu Lemon” brand.

Similar to the hat trend of a few years ago, I was doing it first.

As discussed here, I decided to reduce my ‘every day carry’ (EDC) kit. A few people (okay, one person) doesn’t care for my current bag, proclaiming it too ‘tactical’ looking.

Out With the Old

The ‘old’ bag is a Mystery Ranch “day pack lid” for their military line of backpacks. I have a “Crew Cab” back pack from them (not made anymore) that I used for hauling investigation equipment and overnight gear into back-country wildland fire investigations. That’s where the lid came from. There are pack straps stashed on one side and a pocket for a small hydration bladder. At 14.7 liters (900 cubic inches), it will carry a lot of ‘stuff’–two MREs and two 100oz water bladders, according to their website.

For those not in the know, Mystery Ranch is (was?) owned by Danna Gleason who formerly owned “Dana Designs.” I’ve been using his backpacks since my first “Terraplane” in Alaska in 1997.

I designed the shoulder strap from an old Dana Designs fanny pack and some other scrap webbing around the house. It has a magnetic quick detach adjuster, and attaches to the lid via “Grimlocks.”

The real problem is carrying around the weight–too many “safety props.” Getting a smaller bag forces me to reduce my load. Lets take a look at the current load out. Then I’ll show you the new bag and describe what I’m leaving in and out, and why.

The old principle:

Two is one; one is none.

Apocryphal

Here is the knife: a Chase Axin (Chax Knives) “Warrior Spirit” in a custom Sagewood Gear leather sheath. There is an attached magnesium ferro rod and a tin containing fire starter. The tin is shiny enough to be used as a signalling device.

Front

Front pocket open
Contents of front pocket

In the front pocket is my Traveler’s Notebook (custom; I made it myself; serves as my analog planner, checkbook and wallet), a Sharpie (to check off my grocery list), a “ChicoBag,” house and car keys, and a Kifaru pouch. My phone is usually in here as well.

Contents of front pocket Kifaru pouch

Inside the Kifaru pouch:

  • Fox40 whistle
  • Photon PH021 X-Light Micro (dimmable white light + three strobe speeds + “SOS” flash)
  • Leatherman Style PS (incidentally the only TSA-approved Leatherman as it has no knife blade)
  • Small grey bag contains some tools for my Peak Designs Capture camera clip, and a spare camera battery
  • Dental floss (useful for more than just getting beef jerky out of your teeth)
  • Levenger’s “Pocket Briefcase” (holds 3×5 cards for analog notes on the go)
  • Retirement credentials (if you carry a firearm post-retirement, you have to have your credentials on you)
  • NARCAN nasal spray
  • Toothpicks (these were a gift; closed with rubber bands which are helpful for a variety of field repairs)
  • Duke Cannon “Cannon Balm 140 Tactical Lip Protectant”
  • (center) Surefire E1e Executive Elite flashlight (no longer available)
  • (center) SunBum SPF50 solid (I got this at REI, & carry one on any backpack trip)
  • Car key fob
  • Code of Bell pouch; contains a mask, gloves, and a lens cloth

Rear

Back pocket open

Contents of the rear pocket (left to right, top to bottom):

  • Patagonia Dragon Fly pullover wind shirt (no longer available)
  • Large silk neckerchief
  • Smartwool liner gloves (no longer available)
  • Matador Pocket Blanket mini
  • Matador Droplet dry bag xl (no longer available)
  • Gun Shot Wound trauma kit in a North Face belt pouch (I’ll show you the contents shortly)
  • Electronics charging kit (small REI zippered pouch; I’ll show you the contents shortly)
  • Individual First Aid Kit and miscellaneous in an REI zippered pouch (I’ll show you the contents shortly)
  • North American Rescue Products large Emergency Trauma Dressing
  • Speedhook Emergency fishing/hunting kit (yes, this really works; I’ve caught fish and small game on these)
  • SOFTT tourniquet (the link takes you to the gen4 version, this one is a 2nd generation with a metal, rather than plastic, windlass and other fixtures)
  • Smith’s “Pocket Pal” knife sharpener
  • Fold up reading glasses
  • Two straps with tri-glides (to strap a larger jacket onto the bag)
Patagonia Dragonfly folds into its pocket; the gloves, Buffwear, and neckerchief also fit inside.

GSW kit includes everything needed to prevent the three leading causes of traumatic deaths in tactical/combat situations. The nasopharangeal airway is missing here–it was old and dried out. I have no idea why I put water purifier tabs, tea bags, and rehydration salts in here (top left corner of the picture).

Electronics EDC

For charging the phone on the go. This super thin and light RadioShack rechargeable battery is great. Gives me one full charge on the iPhone. Sorry, kids, RadioShack is not what it used to be.

Individual First Aid Kit and other sundries–a “possibles” kit. Other people that are with me have gotten more use out of this kit than I ever have. I once fixed a guy’s glasses in the theater, moments before the musical started, using ‘snare wire’ out of the ‘survival kit’ and the Leatherman. (left to right, top to bottom):

  • “nuun” tabs container containing Ibuprofen
  • Heavy duty plastic zip top bag has lots of uses including holding water or small game, and picking up trash
  • SOL Emergency bivy
  • Petzl e+lite and two spare batteries
  • Sea-to-Summit Pocket Body Wash
  • small plastic signal mirror
  • “survival kit” (old, unknown brand; filled with very useful bits and bobs and some useless stuff like the “fishing kit”)
  • Burt’s Bees lip balm
  • Leatherman “Wave” multi-tool with attached jewelers screwdriver and various sized eyeglass repair screws
  • Adventure Medical Kits ultralite/watertight “.3” first aid kit (AMK has the best pre-made IFAKs out their and I have been using them for years; I restock this one frequently which is a bit cheaper than buying a new one)

‘First Line’ EDC

Oh, I forgot. This is what I carry in my pockets. Why I show you this will make more since later when we get to the ‘new’ princple.

Clockwise from top left:

  • Stoic Virtues challenge coin
  • OLight i3T 2 flashlight, brass
  • Buck 3-blade pocket knife (it was my dad’s)
  • Fisher brass Bullet Space Pen
  • Zippo lighter, brass
  • Emerson folding Karambit
  • Money clip made from a brass “Chris-Craft” boat motor plate (“Chris-Craft,” get it?)
  • One Euro coin featuring Leonardo di Vinci’s “Vitruvian Man”
  • Large handkerchief

In With the New: “Little Green Bag”

(I had to stick to the music references.)

New principle:

The more you know, the less you have to carry.

Mors Kochanski

Wotancraft “Easy Rider” Sling Bag

Ain’t it beautiful? “Aged” leather and waxed canvas. Well, actually the canvas isn’t waxed, but I’m planning to do that soon to darken the color a bit and add weather proofing. At 9.5 liters (roughly 580 cubic inches) it’s about a third smaller than the Mystery Ranch bag. This will indeed require me to down-size my kit.

The back of the main pocket has loop Velcro, designed to hold accessory pouches with hook Velcro on the back of them. I ended up using two of the four (so far).

I put my Rotring pen and pencil, and a Tombow Mono zero eraser in the pen pocket. The zippered pocket holds my passport and checkbook.

The small zippered pouch (bottom left) contains the sunscreen stick, floss, toothpicks, and “offensively large” lip balm. The tall zippered pouch (top left) holds a scaled down GSW kit and the NARCAN. The SOFT-T doesn’t fit in with the rest of the GSW kit, so it is just floating around in the main pocket.

This is not ideal–hard to find under duress–so I’ll replace it with a lighter weight SWAT-T tourniquet. These are not approved by the “Tactical Combat Care Committee” but it has been tested and proven to work. It packs flat so it should fit in the pouch with the rest of the GSW kit.

Major bummer–my Traveler’s Notebook doesn’t fit in the front pocket. I’ve decided to customize the notebook down from this ‘standard’ size to ‘passport’ size. Then it will fit neatly in the main pocket.

I am fairly certain that this front pocket could be used to smuggle just about any contraband (knife, gun, flask of whisky) past the average concert venue security bag check… I should probably do an article about the “security theater” that I have experienced since 9/11.

Any way, this pocket zips closed, and the way the leather folds the zipper is hidden. All I would need to do is open the main pocket at the bag check. It also helps you to engage the security person with nonsense questions or humor. They get distracted, assume you are a ‘nice’ person and then aren’t as thorough, thereby missing other pockets.

For now I will stick to having my house and car keys in there, attached to the Photon light, and whistle. My iPhone rides in there for now, too (easier access to that than the “phone pocket” in the main pocket).

The green REI zippered pouch is in the main pocket still packed as above but with a few modifications. Mainly I switched the full-sized Leatherman “Wave” for the much smaller and lighter “Style PS.”

Other things I eliminated:

  • Retirement credentials–not carrying a gun, then don’t need the creds
  • The two zip-closure plastic bags
  • Tea bags, water purification tabs, and rehydration salts
  • Patagonia Dragonfly wind shirt, Buffwear, and SmartWool Gloves
  • Chico Bag
  • Matador mini blanket & Droplet dry bag
  • Compact reading glasses
  • Knife sharpener
  • Red neckerchief

I also put the RadioShack rechargeable battery, wall plug, and the two smallest cables into the grey bag with the camera battery. I left out the earbuds, car charger plug, and the tools for the Peak Design Capture. The bag is a lens cloth, and I have gloves and a mask in the IFAK and the GSW kit, so I also got rid of the Code of Bell pouch.

I plan to add a second fire option–probably storm matches in a small case. I’m going to upgrade the Surefire flashlight with a drop in LED to increase the candle power.

The front straps disconnect allowing the main compartment to expand a bit. The bag still has room to add gloves, hat, even a jacket come fall. I’ve also been able to get a book and highlighter in there.

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Ten Tactics for Navigating Emotional Challenges as a Federal Law Enforcement Officer

On July 18th I, like other members of the Federal Law Enforcement Officers Association, received an electronic mail message titled “Navigating Emotional Challenges as a Federal Law Enforcement Officer.” No author was credited, but it came from FLEOA’s Office of Mental Health and Peer Support Services. As I’ve done before, I decided to expand on the ideas in that e-mail. The e-mail presents five “Immediate” and five “Long-Term strategies” for emotional resilience.

These ten strategies are more properly called tactics, so before we get into those let’s define strategy versus tactics, agree on some strategy, and then flesh out the ten tactics.

Strategy Versus Tactics

The terms ‘strategy’ and ‘tactics’ come from military terminology as far back as Sun Tzu’s Art of War. They’ve been adapted to fit different usages such as business strategy.

Have you ever gone to the grocery store without a list or plan? Then tried to fix meals for the next week with a random assortment of groceries? There were probably things you needed but forgot to get, and maybe things you didn’t need that went to waste later that week. Meal planning and a grocery list is a strategy; shopping is the tactic.

Strategy

A strategy is an action plan that you will take in the future to achieve an end. These help you define your long-term goals and how you will achieve a goal. Strategy is the big-picture thinking.

Tactics

Tactics are the individual steps and actions that will get you where the strategy—the action plan or leader’s intent—wants you to go. Tactics zoom in on the nitty-gritty, dealing with the day-to-day operational and short-term objectives. They encompass concrete steps—the how-to steps to turn your overall plan into reality.

All men can see the tactics whereby I conquer, but what none can see is the strategy out of which victory is evolved.

Sun Tzu, The Art of War

Sun Tzu illustrates that while tactics are more concrete and easier to see, an overarching strategy is equally important. The question should not be strategy versus tactics, but strategy and tactics. These are two sides of the same coin—both are necessary.

Strategy without tactics is the slowest route to victory. Tactics without strategy is the noise before the defeat.

Sun Tzu, The Art of War

The Point Is?

Before we get deep into the tactical weeds, we should clarify our strategy. Why are we learning, training, and practicing these tactics? We need to make sure the tactics are suitable for the strategy. So, strategy first.

Fortunately, there’s some strategy in the email.

Being a federal law enforcement officer is a challenging and often thankless job. You can be hailed as a hero one moment and criticized harshly the next. Facing keyboard warriors, Monday morning quarterbacks, and those who have never walked in your shoes can take a significant emotional toll.
Navigating the emotional challenges of being a federal law enforcement officer requires resilience, support, and a strong sense of purpose.

FLEOA Office of Mental Health & Peer Support Services

If we want to be a federal law enforcement officer we should know it can be emotionally challenging. Facing these challenges requires “resilience, support, and a strong sense of purpose.” Part of our strategy then is to develop resilience, build support, and find a strong sense of purpose. Furthermore, we need career-length resilience, and the ability to tap into our resilience in the immediate face of stress and emotional adversity.

Stress

Emotional adversity, and challenge is ‘stress’. In 1936 Hans Selye defined stress as “non-specific responses from a variety of different kinds of stimuli.”

It is not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.

Hans Selye

Stress can be classified as acute, chronic, or episodic. Sources of law enforcement stress can be ‘operational,’ ‘organizational,’ or ‘critical incident.’ These are on top of the daily stress of living that everyone experiences.

Organizational stress is the stress generated by the organization—shifting priorities, changes in policy and procedure, audits, and inquiries—any time the employee perceives the agency is negatively affecting the attainment of basic needs.

Critical incident stress stems from being involved in a critical incident or ‘moral injury’. Moral injury refers to an injury to an individual’s moral conscience and values resulting from an act (of omission or commission) of perceived moral transgression. This produces profound emotional guilt and shame, and in some cases also a sense of betrayal, anger, and profound ‘moral disorientation.’

Operational stress is the idea of day-to-day stress of being in unknown dangerous or hazardous situations as a part of the “routine” of the job.

But stress is also information. From evolution theories and physical science laws, we know that adding or tolerating some noise in the system is how adaptation occurs. This is seen as annealing, catalysis, or genetic mutation. Perfect fidelity—a flat baseline—would disallow evolution or genetic shift. Noise, that is ‘information’ or ‘mutation,’ allows the organism to explore the full evolutionary spectrum or landscape.

Adopting the right attitude can change a negative stress into a positive one.

Hans Selye

Think of stress as a performance-enhancing drug. Eustress is good, has positive hormetic effects, and is performance enhancing. With proper dosing and recovery, your tolerance improves, your capacity increases, and you develop more resiliency. Distress is the wrong dose—too much at once or chronic use without recovery—and leads to psychological and physiological side effects.

Your vagus nerve extends from your brain stem through your neck into your chest and abdomen and connects your brain, heart, and gut. It helps to regulate your heart rate, breathing, blood pressure, digestion, and emotional state among other functions. If you are experiencing anxiety, depression, stress, fatigue, or any emotional health symptoms, it may mean that you have a poor vagal tone, and your vagus nerve needs some care.

Your body sends more information to your brain (afferent signals) than your brain does to your body (efferent signals). Your brain is constantly processing this information to determine responses—regulatory for homeostasis, and to fight, flee or collapse. A good vagal tone is important for:

  • Lowering blood pressure and heart rate
  • Managing stress and anxiety
  • Regulating mood
  • Decreasing inflammation or pain
  • Delivering information between the brain and the gut
  • Providing sensory information from the throat, lungs, and heart
  • Regulating swallowing and speech

Symptoms of poor vagal tone may include:

  • Anxiety/Depression/Poor emotional regulation
  • High stress
  • Being in constant flight-or-fight mode
  • Lowered attention span
  • Increased inflammation 
  • Pain

‘Heart Rate Variability’ is an indicator of vagal tone. HRV is where the amount of time between your heartbeats fluctuates slightly. These normal variations are small, adding or subtracting a fraction of a second between beats. It may seem counterintuitive, but more variability is a good sign, indicating parasympathetic dominance and good vagal tone.

Another strategy, therefore, is to improve our vagal tone and heart rate variability through parasympathetic dominance. A balance between sympathetic and parasympathetic is what we are seeking. Most of us, especially LEOs, spend too much time in sympathetic dominance. We need to learn to relax and recover. Those are parasympathetic states.

The mind must be given [rest]—it will rise improved and sharper after a good break. Just as rich fields must not be forced—for they will quickly lose their fertility if never given a break—so constant work on the anvil will fracture the force of the mind. But it regains its powers if it is set free and relaxed for a while. Constant work gives rise to a certain kind of dullness and feebleness in the rational soul.

Seneca, On Tranquility of Mind

Resilience

Resilience is the capacity to prepare for, adapt to, and recover from stress, trauma, adversity, or challenge. By building greater ‘surge capacity’ you can face greater allostatic load—better prepared with greater emotional flexibility, make smarter decisions, and keep a cool head in challenging situations.

Resilience is not the absence of stress. At the core of resilience is the belief that in the very nature of crisis lies an opportunity for growth. Law enforcement officers accumulate the effects of chronic stress. It’s important to reflect on current stressors and habits and consider new tactics to incorporate into daily living that counter the negative outcomes of living with stress.

We have a capacity for energy. We expend this energy at every step. We can and must renew this energy as often as possible. Strategic and tactical recovery is the key. Recovery and a sense of control or agency are the difference between post-traumatic stress disorder and post-traumatic growth.

Rather than a fixed characteristic, resilience is a capacity that we potentiate with life-long practice. Trusting we have both internal and external resources, resilience represents our ability to meet the challenges we encounter each day, with the least amount of negative consequences to our bodies, hearts, and minds.

We have to work to build our resilience. We have to work on it regularly. Our bodies innately hold the potential for resilience. We need only train and practice tapping into that innate potential by learning how to work respectfully and in partnership with our physiology.

Coherence

The trick here is to develop tactics that prepare us, help us to adapt by shifting and resetting energy, and allow us to sustain energy throughout the day. We need energy management techniques to prepare, adapt, recover, and sustain our physiology in a state of coherence.

A key to building resilience, coherence is not equivalent to relaxation. Coherence is a state of optimal functioning in which your physical systems are in sync and balanced, and your heart, mind, and emotions are working together in a coordinated manner. Coherence adds energy to the system. It conserves energy and is a state of self-regulation where you have greater control of your reactions.

Coherence is top-down and bottom-up balance. As Bassel van der Kolk wrote, it is being able to “hover calmly over your thoughts, feelings, and emotions, and then taking your time to respond allowing the executive brain to inhibit, organize, and modulate the hard-wired automatic reactions preprogrammed into the emotional brain.” Bottom-up we can apply the parasympathetic break and reduce hyper-arousal, fine-tuning the alarm system with just a few intentional and atentional breaths.

Strategies

To summarize, “Being a federal law enforcement officer is emotionally challenging. Navigating the emotional challenges … requires resilience, support, and a strong sense of purpose.” To that end, we will learn, train, and practice (1) developing resilience through improved vagal tone and heart rate variability, (2) energy management techniques toward synchronicity and balance—coherence—of our sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems, (3) building and maintaining support systems, and (4) connecting with our strong sense of purpose.

The Tactics

The original e-mail divides these into short- and long-term. I will follow suit with a caveat: by short-term I mean in the moment of the emotional dis-regulation. All of the tactics should be practiced, or set up, ‘long-term’ so they are accessible ‘short-term’. ‘In the long-term’ I mean tactics to deploy regularly. Often practicing the long-term tactics regularly—deep breathing techniques for example—allows access to the tactical benefits in the short term—quickly gaining coherence between the initial contact and the closure with just a few deep breaths. With that in mind, I will reverse the order of the e-mail and start with long-term tactics.

Long-Term Tactics

The email lists five “Long-Term [Tactics] for Sustained Resilience”:

  1. Build a Strong Support Network
  2. Develop a Healthy Outlet
  3. Practice Mindfulness and Meditation
  4. Reflect on Your Motivation and Purpose
  5. Seek Professional Help if Needed

Let’s take each of these in turn, reviewing what the email recommends, and build on that.

Build a Strong Support Network

Cultivate relationships with peers and mentors who can provide guidance, support, and a listening ear. Being part of a supportive community can help you navigate difficult times.

FLEOA OMH&PSS e-mail

Notice this says “support,” not ‘social’ network. The depth of your relationships far outweighs the breadth of your ‘followers,’ ‘likes,’ or ‘friends’ on social media platforms.

Research indicates that social isolation increases the likelihood of mortality by about 30%, but strong relationships have a protective effect and increase survival by 50%. By providing a social forum for voluntarily expressing emotions, struggles, fears, and life challenges, peer support combats this loneliness, which is often associated with chronic physical and mental health conditions, leading to a downward spiral with each exacerbating the other.

While our core values emphasize serving others, we often don’t seek help when our health is at risk. While we may be able to endure hardships without complaints, we may not be aware of our early warning signs of distress. While we strive to perform perfectly in high-stakes environments, we can feel ashamed when we can’t do it all, make mistakes, or slow down to care for ourselves. Recognizing the signs of severe and persistent distress in oneself or a fellow officer and taking steps to lessen the severity is critically important. Practicing self-care or helping connect a fellow officer with a trusted source of support may help prevent stress reactions from progressing into clinical mental health conditions, physical health conditions, or significant life impairment.

Peer support can be identified as a form of help offered by a peer (or group of peers) who have gone through similar situations. This can be social, practical, or emotional. More importantly, this support is mutually provided and reciprocated, thus allowing, everyone to benefit. The type of assistance provided can be more of a friendship or more like mentoring or informal coaching. Regardless of the form of support provided, the lived experiences of the peer group supporter are the most essential part of the service.

Chris Cagle, US Forest Service Law Enforcement & Investigations Peer Support briefing paper

Peer support has been identified as an effective approach to enhance emotional well-being. By adopting a common language, increasing social connectedness, and providing both emotional and tactical support for day-to-day stressors, peer support is a low-cost, effective service that can promote awareness among law enforcement officers, and reduce stigma merely by providing a platform for discussion. Peer support also provides opportunities for peers to assist others who are going through difficult situations. Many studies have shown that helping others, regardless of receiving any support in return, has great psychological benefits. For adults, giving to others through activities such as volunteering or providing emotional support improves well-being and reduces mortality.

Peer support leads to greater empowerment by providing hope, a sense of personal responsibility, and advocacy of self and community. In addition, good peer support fosters trust, acceptance, understanding, and compassion. The sense of belonging and access to a support network for both emotional support and tactical resources can help address some of the most debilitating and costly chronic mental and physical health conditions today. Moreover, peer support directly contributes to the protective factors for mental well-being by enhancing control, increasing resilience and community assets, facilitating participation, and promoting inclusion.

Develop a Healthy Outlet

Engage in activities that help you de-stress and decompress. Exercise, hobbies, and creative pursuits can provide a necessary release for pent-up emotions.

FLEOA OMH&PSS e-mail

There is no better place to start than daily physical activity, sufficient sleep, and healthy eating. Recovery from stress is tantamount to both short- and long-term resilience. Review your daily and weekly routines, and make sure you focus on each of these components. Recovery is the most overlooked part of daily schedules—it can be as simple as a walk, meditating, breathing exercises, or a quiet hobby.

Creative pursuits abound: writing, painting, sculpting, modeling, and DIY projects. The primary goal is to disengage your mind from work and the stresses thereof. Engage it in something else that requires focus and concentration. Reading—fiction and non-fiction (outside of your career)—works here too. I tend to dig into philosophy, poetry, and ‘big’ fiction (like Moby Dick, of course).

Various ‘spiritual practices’—both theological and philosophical—can help you mentally and emotionally restore. These could include attending formal religious institutions and ceremonies, or private prayer and ritual. It could also be like those described by Pierre Hadot in Philosophy as a Way of Life and The Inner Citadel. Speaking of ‘spiritual exercises’…

Practice Mindfulness and Meditation

Incorporate mindfulness practices into your routine to help manage stress and maintain emotional balance. Techniques such as meditation, deep breathing, and mindfulness exercises can enhance your resilience.

FLEOA OMH&PSS e-mail

First a few distinctions. ‘Mindfulness’ comes in two flavors: formal and informal. Washing the dishes ‘mindfully’ is an informal practice. Meditation is a formal practice. ‘Deep breathing’ exercises can be done ‘mindfully,’ and in formal meditation practice, your breath can be the focal point. Breathing techniques independent of meditation can also be practiced for various benefits similar to mindfulness.

Mindfulness means moment-to-moment, non-judgemental awareness. It can be cultivated by refining our capacity to pay attention, intentionally in the present moment and sustaining that attention over time as best we can. In the process, we become more in touch with our life as it is unfolding.

John Kabat Zin

Mindfulness as an informal practice helps our moment-to-moment perception, John Boyd’s ‘observation’ phase of the OODA loop.

[Regarding mindful perception] you have mistaken a coiled rope for a snake; with practice your awareness is such that the ‘snake’ will more rapidly collapse into the reality of ‘just rope’.

Sam Harris, Waking Up app

Let’s modify Harris’s metaphor to better illustrate its usefulness to federal law enforcement officers You have mistaken a cell phone for a gun… I think you can figure out the rest. Of course the opposite is just as dangerous.

Research suggests that meditation, or mindfulness, may protect the brain from the negative effects of stress by decreasing ruminative thoughts and distractions. Reducing rumination may decrease distress and may even promote compassion and altruism.

One mechanism by which meditation protects the brain is through the production of gamma waves – a sign of neuroplasticity, which is linked to a capacity to learn new things and change synapses as a consequence of new behaviors. Neuroplasticity makes your brain more resilient and slows cognitive aging.

Meditation also increases the brain’s gray matter – the area of the brain associated with working memory and executive decision-making. Gray matter is also where the omega­-3 fatty acid DHA is enriched. DHA protects the brain against cognitive decline. As we age, our brains atrophy and we lose some of that gray matter. However meditation may increase brain volume in areas of the brain related to learning, memory, neurotransmitter production, empathy, compassion, attention, and self-relevance, while decreasing the activity of the amygdala, the area of the brain involved in anxiety and fear.

Not only does meditation slow cognitive aging, but it also slows biological aging by slowing the shortening of telomeres, protecting your DNA. Studies by telomere experts Elizabeth Blackburn at UCSF and Elisa Epel show that meditation buffers the stress that shortens telomeres and activates the gene that encodes for the enzyme telomerase, which can extend the length of telomeres.

Let me connect the dots here. Meditation and the ability to maintain present-state awareness (aka ‘mindfulness’) that comes with the practice up-armors the brain, balances the mind both top-down and bottom-up, and—bonus force multiplier—is the ultimate situational-awareness performance-enhancing tool.

For me, the “breathing technologies” of HeartMath were a gateway to formal meditation. As a certified HeartMath coach and mentor, I’d be remiss if I didn’t mention three of their strategies. “Prep” to set the tone and be more composed for the day or event; “Shift and Reset” as soon as possible after a stress reaction or challenging situation; “Sustain” your resilience throughout the day by establishing regular practices to refresh your composure between activities.

With these three strategies in hand, you will more effectively regulate your energy, replenish your surge capacity, and increase your resilience. A hallmark of the HeartMath self-regulation techniques is that you can use them rapidly on the go, which is the best time to plug energy leaks, recharge, and make more effective choices in challenging situations.

The value of “Prepping” cannot be overemphasized. The purpose is to ensure that before entering a challenging situation, you are in a more resilient and composed state. Then you can meet the challenge and respond optimally. Consider using one of the coherence tactics to practice the “Prep” strategy before the work shift starts or potentially stressful events such as ‘hot calls,’ tactical operations, entering dangerous environments, critical communications, traffic stops, or meetings.

“Shift and Reset” is for re-stabilizing your energy systems throughout the day. When we have stress reactions we are wasting energy. It benefits us greatly to shift and reset as quickly as possible. This saves a lot of energy and, in many situations, avoids prolonged stress and time loss. Do not underestimate how much of your resilience is affected by regularly occurring energy drain. When you find yourself challenged, use one of the tactics as soon as you can to shorten the time you are out of sync. By applying the parasympathetic break, you spend less time in the catabolic hyper-cortisolemic state. This helps reduce energy drains while restoring self-composure.

“Sustaining” coherence helps maintain your resilience throughout the day. Without a conscious effort to sustain coherence and reduce energy-draining emotions, we can automatically fall prey to feelings of irritation, anxiety, worry, frustration, judgement, and self-doubt. Our responses become automatic and mechanical and we act before the ‘watchtower’ (rational, prefrontal cortex) can intervene. Stay ahead of stress and the resulting depletion by recharging your inner batteries regularly throughout the day. Your capacity must exceed demand and since you can rarely predict demand, it’s a best practice to be as fully charged as possible.

Now the two techniques: “Heart-Focused Breathing” and “Quick Coherence Technique.”

“Heart-focused breathing” is an effective technique to take the charge out of a stress reaction and start shifting into a more coherent state. It’s a simple technique that helps turn down the volume of stress. Combining the simple act of focusing on the heart area, with a deeper and slower pace of breathing, helps draw energy away from your distressed thoughts and feelings. You interrupt your sympathetic nervous system and apply the acetylcholine break to become more parasympathetic dominant, which is reflected in more coherent heart rhythms (heart rate variability) and significantly improves your mental capacity.

The technique: Focus your attention on the area of the heart. Imagine your breath is flowing in and out of your heart or chest area; breathe a little slower and deeper than usual – maybe a four-count inhalation and a five-count exhalation.

That’s it. Simple, right? But, you need to train with this technique and practice it in real situations, as often as possible, to make it second nature. Breathing is one of the few body functions that is under both conscious and autonomic control. Controlling breathing controls heart rate. Every exhale activates the parasympathetic break (top-down), slows the heart, and dials down the ‘smoke alarm’ (amygdala sensitivity). The longer the exhale, the more parasympathetic activation. Focussing attention on the heart may sound like ‘woo,’ but what you are doing is allowing the ‘watchtower’ to check in with the heart via the vagal nerve.

Let’s talk about the second technique: “Quick Coherence.” The next important step in replenishing your energy levels and resilience is to experience a higher ratio of regenerative feelings such as appreciation, compassion, courage, dignity, integrity, and other energy-renewing feelings.

Step one: Repeat the Heart-Focused Breathing technique. Step two: Make a sincere attempt to experience a regenerative feeling such as appreciation or care for someone or something in your life. As I breathe in I mentally repeat the words “Courage,” “Wisdom,” “Justice,” and “Moderation” because these are things I want to receive. As I breathe out I mentally repeat the words “Appreciation,” “Gratitude,” “Compassion,” and “Awareness,” because these are things I want to give or share.

With practice, you can do both steps in one breath cycle. Shift your focus to your heart as you inhale, and activate a positive feeling as you exhale. With more practice, you can reach a coherent state with three breath cycles. Use the Quick Coherence Technique whenever you recognize energy-draining moments, however subtle. Self-activating and renewing emotions leads to greater resilience.

Reflect on your Motivation and Purpose

Revisit the reason you chose this profession. Reflect on the impact you have made and the lives you have touched. This can reignite your sense of purpose and strengthen your resolve.

FLEOA OMH & PSS e-mail

To “reflect on your motivation and purpose” assumes you have a purpose and are aware of your motivations. Throughout my years of peer support and coaching, I have found that people have some vague ideas of their motivations and purpose, but don’t have them well articulated. This means, at the time of need, under some mental or emotional distress, your purpose is unavailable to help in decision-making. Without this foundation, we risk saying and doing things in violation of our deepest-held beliefs and values, and not in the direction of our ‘north star.’

People who labor all their lives but have no purpose to direct every thought and impulse toward are wasting their time—even when hard at work.

Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

The scientific evidence indicates Eudaemonia, or ‘flourishing’, comes from a positive, self-determined, self-transcending purpose. We are teleological and purpose-driven. Our most potent, vigorous, and sustaining sense of purpose occurs when we transcend self-interest. We are nourished when the ‘why’ behind the ‘what’ is intrinsic and other-centered.

Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life … Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated. Thus, everyone’s talk is as unique as is his specific opportunity to implement it.

Viktor Frankl

For the purpose of, well, finding your purpose, the Human Performance Institute suggests you set aside time to ask yourself and answer the following questions:

  1. What legacy do you want to leave behind? Or, how do you want to be remembered?
  2. How do you want people to describe you?
  3. Who do you want to be?
  4. Who/what matters most to you?
  5. What are your deepest values?
  6. How would you define success in life?
  7. What makes your life worth living?

Here are a few more:

  1. How would you like to hear people eulogize you at your funeral?
  2. What is worth denying for?
  3. What one-sentence inscription would you like to see on your tombstone?

In answering these questions we can, as Viktor Frankl said, detect true rather than invent false missions.

That was the briefest of treatments; sorry. Any more than this is beyond the scope of this article. You could go here for more depth. What’s important is that you write this down. Then you can revisit it in daily or weekly journaling exercises. Over time this practice fortifies in the mind an ‘inner citadel’, protecting your core values and beliefs, allowing you access to your moral compass and guiding principles even in times of duress.

Seek Professional Help if Needed

Don’t hesitate to seek help from a mental health professional if the emotional toll becomes overwhelming. Therapy can provide valuable tools and strategies for managing stress and maintaining wellness.

FLEOA OMH&PSS e-mail

I don’t have a lot to add here. I would offer, that you should not wait until “the emotional toll is overwhelming.” I know there are immediately available resources such as your agency EAP, but I believe it’s better to get established and comfortable with a therapist at any hint of need.

I can say this: I have been to several talk therapy sessions with a family therapist; I have participated in psychologist-led group therapy; I had eight Cognitive Behavioral Therapy sessions with another psychologist. I have also been through a battery of tests by a “neuro-psychologist” to determine if I have any signs of traumatic brain injury or neuro-degeneration like early onset Alzheimers. I’ve also been evaluated by a psychiatrist for post-traumatic stress disorder. None of these sessions were any more weird than the first time I got a full-body massage.

I will add, that when in doubt return to long-term tactic number one. Engage your support network. Call up a peer support team member. Peer support can be your first step, a bridge, to professional psychotherapy.

Long-term benefits of therapy include:

  1. Practical coping mechanisms to manage stress and problem-solving
  2. Development of self-support systems
  3. Improved mental health—increased mood and reduced anxiety
  4. Identification of and insight into negative thought patterns, allowing for the development of a more positive, realistic life outlook
  5. According to the American Psychological Association, up to 80% improvement in mental health symptoms

Short-Term Tactics

In case I didn’t make it clear before, long-term tactics should be practiced consistently.

That’s why the philosophers warn us not to be satisfied with mere learning, but to add practice and then training. For as time passes we forget what we learned and end up doing the opposite, and hold opinions the opposite of what we should.

Epictetus, Discourses

But, in consistently practicing, you set yourself up to access and implement your “immediate” tactics “to maintain your mental wellness, stay motivated, and continue to serve with dedication and integrity.”

The email lists five “Immediate [Tactics] for Emotional Resilience:”

  1. Acknowledge Your Feelings
  2. Pause and Breathe
  3. Maintain Perspective
  4. Seek Support
  5. Focus on the Facts

As before we will look at each, one at a time, reviewing what the email suggests, and build on that. We will also connect these tactics to the long-term tactics as appropriate, to show how they support each other.

Acknowledge Your Feelings

Recognize and accept your emotions. It’s normal to feel hurt, frustrated, or angry when facing unwarranted criticism. Denying these feelings can lead to more significant issues down the line.

FLEOA OMH&PSS e-mail

Even the most stoic of Stoics did not counsel students to suppress emotions. They taught that often emotions—first impressions, as Epictetus called them—are impossible to suppress. Recognizing this then we are challenged to decide which and to what degree we assent to the emotions.

Make it your practice to confront every strong impression with the words, “You are but an impression, and not the source of the impression.” Then test and assess it with your criteria; and first by this—the chief test of all—“Is this something that is or is not in my control?”

Epictetus, Discourses

Emotions color our thoughts. These thoughts though—tainted as they are by mood, nutrition and hydration, past experiences, media, and a host of other internal and external factors—are not facts. Thoughts and emotions are just mental events that come and go like clouds in the sky.

Decisions, not conditions, determine what a man is.

Viktor Frankl

Recognizing, acknowledging, and naming your emotions helps you to manage them better. By acknowledging that you have emotions, and not judging yourself harshly for it, you are better set to maintain perspective, rather than succumb to ruminating, negative thought patterns.

The long-term tactics of mindfulness meditation, and therapy (especially Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) are a force multiplier here. Mindfulness meditation cultivates an awareness of your thoughts and emotions, reducing biased thinking and promoting a balanced perception of reality. With practice, moment-to-moment mindfulness is more the norm, giving you the ability to step back from automatic reactions and check reality leading to improved mental clarity and better orientation—better OODA looping.

One of the most powerful tools I earned in my eight CBT sessions is the application of the “ABC model” for building self-awareness. ABC is an acronym for “Antecedents” (or activating event, aka ‘trigger’), “Behavior” (and/or beliefs), and “Consequences” (of the belief or behavior). You start by writing these down as they come up. I was told to either write them down when I thought of them or to make them part of my evening journal practice.

Next, you add the letters “D” and “E” which stand for “Disputing” and “Exchanging” (or effects). You ‘dispute’ the automatic emotions, beliefs, and thought patterns—as Epictetus says “test and assess with your criteria.” Then you ‘exchange’ the irrational, false, or unhelpful with new balanced thoughts and beliefs. Now answer, “What are the ‘effects’ of the exchange?”

This is a process you should practice daily. That said (and I know I sound like a broken record here), with consistent practice, it becomes a tactic you can access and apply quickly as your recognized and named activating events arise.

Pause and Breathe

Take a moment to breathe deeply and center yourself. This can help reduce the immediate emotional impact and prevent rash reactions.

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Remember back in long-term tactic number three, where I mentioned HeartMath breathing techniques? Here’s where the practice of “Heart-Focused Breathing” and “Quick Coherence” comes in handy to “Shift and Reset.” As I previously wrote, with consistent practice you can shift and reset to a state of coherence in just a few breaths.

So what can we add? You can use the acronym “W.I.N.”—“What’s Important Now?” If you are feeling overwhelmed first, take a deep breath, hold it for a second, and try to inhale deeper. Now exhale slow and long—really long—until you bottom out. Now breathe normally and make a list of the things that are within your control right now. This is effectively what Jocko Willink calls “Detach”—by dumping all the CO2 out of your lungs with a long exhale, you are more parasympathetic dominate and can think clearer, rising above the “problem” to look around at the whole scene. Next, consciously commit to focusing and acting on those things, rather than the ones beyond your total control — which if it helps, you can also list. Extra points if you can recognize some things on that list you can influence, or some things outside of your control that you can perceive and thus make contingencies for.

Now, as Jocko would suggest, “Prioritize and Execute.” Complete the OODA Loop—decide and act. Take an action, however small. Just a five-minute action is all it takes to feel in control, to feel you have agency. A five-minute action is something very small; it’s an action—something you do; it’s something that feels easy and simple; it moves you in the direction you want to go.

Have more time? Wipe the slate clean with ‘Self-Compassion’ with a R.A.I.N. Meditation. “R.A.I.N.” is an acronym for Recognize what is happening right now—name it; Allow the experience without judgement—it is not good or bad it just is; Investigate with interest and care—how does the experience make you feel; Nurture yourself with self-compassion as to not identify with the emotions—I feel angry, rather than I am angry. With that, you can wipe the slate clean—each moment is fresh. Whatever happened yesterday or one hour ago is irrelevant to your ‘now’.

Maintain Perspective

Remind yourself that criticism often comes from those who lack a full understanding of your job and the complexities you face. Their judgements do not define your worth or competence.

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I heard somewhere, a podcast perhaps, that someone else’s opinion of me is none of my business. As Marcuse Aurelius wrote, “The opinion of 10,000 men is of no value if none of them know anything about the subject.” As the email says, the critiques are from “those who lack full understanding.”

When another blames you or hates you, or people voice similar criticisms, go to their souls, penetrate inside, and see what sort of people they are. You will realize that there is no need to be racked with anxiety that they should hold any particular opinion about you.

Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

Sticking with the lessons from Stoicism (and from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), I found this well-articulated example:

Consider a common example: someone insults you, possibly with intent to hurt you. There are several things you should contemplate on such occasions. First off, was the ‘insult’ actually a valid criticism? In that case, you should accept it gratefully and attempt to do better. Was the criticism false? Then the joke’s on the other guy, since he is uttering something demonstrably wrong.
“Second, are you positive that the intent was to hurt you? Maybe the other person said what he said in good faith, or without thinking carefully, or based on the premise that he had a right to say it. Unless you are sure about his motives, giving him the benefit of the doubt is going to go a long way toward defusing the situation.
“Finally, what if the fellow really wanted to hurt you? It follows from the dichotomy of control that the attempt is up to him, but the outcome is actually up to you. Only if you react in a way to show that you are, indeed, offended, will the barb have achieved its goal, the arrow hit its target. But as Epictetus tells his students: “Remember that it is we who torment, we who make difficulties for ourselves—that is, our opinions do. What for instance does it mean to be insulted? Stand by a rock and insult it, and what have you accomplished? If someone responds to insult like a rock, what has the abuser gained with his invective?

Massimo Pigliucci, How to Live a Good Life, chapter 5: Stoicism

Seek Support

“Reach out to trusted colleagues, friends, or family members who understand your challenges. Sharing your experiences can provide relief and perspective.” —FLEOA OMH & PSS email

This tactic, of course, goes back to the long-term tactics of building a strong support network and seeking professional help if needed. Seeking support is easier to do if you have a strong support network already in place.

This tactic adds another level of support, recommending family members and friends. I strongly believe in the benefits of friends (and hobbies) outside of your agency, even outside the confines of your profession. This provides a double buffer from sources of stress and a more biased ear—that is, biased in your favor—but also untainted by coworkers, supervisors, etcetera.

Focus on the Facts

Stay grounded in the reality of your actions and decisions. Reflect on the facts of the situation rather than the emotional tone of the criticism.

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Here we can drop back to things we discussed in the “Acknowledge Your Feelings” tactic. Specifically the ABCDE model from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Also informal mindfulness and formal meditation help here. We can also consider adding prosoché—Stoic mindfulness—as another practice.

Mindfulness is intentional, non-judgemental attention in the present moment. Prosoché is an ancient Greek word for ‘focused attention’. The word was used by the Stoics to describe having a present moment, focused attention on virtue and what is under our control or ‘up to us’.

Instead of living focused on the past—regret—or on the unknown future—anxiety—we should focus on facts of the present moment, and determine what is within our control. What can you take action on right now? Jocko Willink would say now all you have to do is prioritize and execute the actions. Focus on the facts rather than the emotional tone, then proactively do what you can within your spheres of control and influence.

Is That All?

I know all that sounds like a lot to do or think about. Fortunately, you don’t have to do all of them to see benefits. Any small step you take towards emotional flexibility and balance will help you to feel better and more in control. You’ll be more resilient. Also, these tactics cross over and support one another. Learn one and the others come easier.

As the philosophers say, first learn. Then train for proficiency. Then consistently practice every day.

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An Anxious Flâneur in Cleveland

The flâneur, a captivating emblem of urban experience and modernity, originating from the lively streets of 19th-century Paris encapsulates a distinctive way of engaging with the cityscape. From the literal translation of “stroller,” “lounger,” and “loafer,” the term evolved to denote a philosophical stance toward life and the metropolitan environment.

What’s this then about an ‘anxious’ flâneur? That’s what this article is all about. I believe that embracing a modern flâneur mindset or philosophy in this new (to me) city is just what the doctor ordered. No, really, I think my therapist would approve. But I’m getting ahead of myself.

Let’s go back to nineteenth-century Paris to see where this all started, and work our way forward from there.

Flâneur is from the Old Norse verb flana—to wander with no purpose. The word flânerie dates back to the 16th or 17th century, meaning “to stroll or idle,” that is, “to waste time walking aimlessly.” It was in the 19th century that the word began to take on more depth of meaning. Several authors added a rich constellation of meanings and associations to its first recorded definition in 1872 as a stroller, lounger, saunterer, or loafer.

Sainte-Beuve wrote flânerie “is the very opposite of doing nothing,” and Honré de Balzac likened flânerie to “the gastronomy of the eye.” Earlier in 1867, in What One Sees in the Streets of Paris, Victor Fournel called flânerie an art—a way of understanding the rich variety of the city landscape.

The poet Charles Baudelaire advanced Fournel’s ideas in an essay titled The Painter of Modern Life (1863). Therein he describes the “perfect flâneur…the passionate spectator…to feel oneself everywhere at home; to see the world, to be at the center of the world, and yet to remain hidden from the world.” Baudelaire described the flâneur as a gentleman stroller and passionate wanderer of city streets. Further, he was an avid observer and connoisseur of the urban experience, able to find beauty in life’s transient, fugacious aspects.

In an analysis of the poetry of Baudelaire, and extracting from Fournel, Walter Benjamin described the flâneur as an amateur detective and investigator of the city. Here, we see the flâneur as an anonymous figure who navigates the city with a detached yet observant demeanor. Invisible amidst the urban crowds, they can witness the ebb and flow of city life without direct engagement or influence. With a thoughtful synthesis of active engagement with the urban environment and a detached observation of society, the flâneur traverses the city with no more purpose than to soak in the nuances of urban life.

According to Susan Sontag (1977), the flâneur can observe and report thanks to the development of handheld cameras.

The [street] photographer is an armed version of the solitary walker reconnoitering, stalking, cruising the urban inferno, the voyeuristic stroller who discovers the city as a landscape of voluptuous extremes. Adept of the joys of watching, connoisseur of empathy, the flâneur finds the world ‘picturesque’.

Susan Sontag

A more recent addition to the nuanced definition comes from Nassim Taleb. In his 2012 book Antifragile, he introduces the idea of a “rational flâneur” who seeks optionality and freedom through opportunism. Since you can’t predict the future, he says, you stand to gain more by keeping your options open rather than rigid planning. His flâneur is a self-learner and experimenter who is never the prisoner of a plan.

Flâneur Moderne

From all of this, we can distill some characteristics of a modern flâneur which I can ‘practice’ as part of my practical philosophy.

A flâneur moderne is a peripatetic wanderer.

Peripatetic: of, relating to, or given to walking. Remember that white feather in Forest Gump? Remember Forest Gump’s seemingly accidental involvement in all sorts of history? That’s the freedom of wandering ‘aimlessly’ the modern flâneur seeks. Their atelic meandering differs in one way from Gump’s. They are highly aware that the best things in life happen as a matter of chance.

So while the walk is atelic, there is a goal. It opens up an infinite number of new chance encounters. In searching for what it is they do not know, they are forced to see beyond their worldview. It is through not seeking that the flâneur moderne finds.

A Flâneur Moderne is an observer.

Every person encountered conceals a story. Every sight you see hides an insight. Modern flâneurs are passionate observers with a discerning gaze and high observational skills. The flâneur moderne goes through life seeing the world as if for the first time. Or, at least trying to.

A Flâneur Moderne is a documentarian.

One way for them to be useful is to document their experience. Knowledge, ideas, reviews, and insights from the journey can be a boon to others. Like a documentarian, the flâneur moderne can return with inspiration, images, thoughts, memories, and experiences for posterity or future creative endeavors. By recording their journey, they can share their learning and failures.

A Flâneur Moderne is an experimenter.

Discovery and growth are found on the other side of fear and beyond the comfort zone. As Nassim Taleb writes, it is through experimentation, “rational but undirected trial-and-error-based research,” while staying opportunistic, that the flâneur finds and maintains freedom.

It is through hardship and failure that we become more robust. It is through seeking randomness that life becomes vital and quickening.

A Flâneur Moderne focuses on the present.

Burdened by, as Baudelaire put it, “the tyranny of circumstance,” the flâneur thrives on the present moment. When wandering purposelessly in foreign environments, thinking about long-term personal goals takes a back seat to the present-moment cacophony of experience. Granted, the occasional epiphany may arise, but ’schedules,’ ‘systems,’ and ‘productivity’ are set aside.

Mindfulness has been described as “watching the traffic go by without getting hit by it”—so too flânerie. The focus is on observation, orientation, and in-the-moment decision-making.

A Flâneur Moderne seeks meaning.

They probe the unknown, beyond the comfort of the ‘normal world’, in search of what makes them better. And on the occasion a dragon is slain and the magic elixir won, they seek to bring that back for all to benefit.

Flânerie then transcends aimless wandering or idleness. It becomes, rather, a search for what resonates deeply, for that which speaks to the soul. While trying to remain attuned to the true essence of things, the flâneur moderne comes to better understand themselves in the world.

Flâneur Inquiet?

Inquiet is the French word for anxious. I don’t consider myself an anxious person—I don’t worry much at all. I do, however, have some negative beliefs and a fear accompanying that worldview. These lend to thoughts, behaviors, and actions that are sometimes protective, but more often not. All that together gets me a diagnosis of “general anxiety disorder.” Given my retirement, the quotidian parts of life dominate, making those thoughts, behaviors, and actions more often a hindrance.

Two ways I have previously dealt with my anxiety and fear are avoidance of anxiety-provoking events or environments, and “safety props.”

Safety Props

Let’s talk safety props first. Think of these as the Boy Scouts’ “ten essentials” on steroids. Flashlights, lighters, knives, first aid kits, gunshot wound trauma kits, emergency bivy, extra clothes, fire starters… As you can see this list can quickly get out of control. Add to this the idea that “two is one and one is none,” and this can quickly become an unmanageable load.

Once you get all this kit together, you still risk private businesses or events giving a hard “no” to any of that on their premises. The easiest example is air travel and its TSA gatekeepers.

The cognitive behavioral therapy answer to this is two-fold. First, learn to be comfortable with the discomfort of leaving that stuff behind. Or, slowly over time (though I guess you could try the cold turkey approach), reduce your load by asking, “Is the reason I’m carrying this factual?” and “What is the probability of real need?”

At the outset, life is almost as inert as matter; … But life was not content with this stay-at-home existence of the plant; always its advances have been away from security towards freedom; away from carapaces, scales, and hides, and other burdensome protections, to the ease and perilous liberty of the bird. “So the heavy Hoplite was supplanted by the legionary; the knight, clad in armor, had to give place to the light free-moving infantryman; and in a general way, in the evolution of life, just as in the evolution of human societies and of the individual destinies, the greatest successes have been for those who accepted the heaviest risks.” (Heri Bergson, Creative Evolution, 1907). So, too, man has ceased to evolve new organs on his body; he makes tools and weapons instead, and lays them aside when they are not needed, rather than carry all his armament at every step, like those gigantic fortresses, the mastodon and the megatherium, whose heavy security lost them the mastery of the globe. Life may be impeded, as well as aided, by its instruments.

Will Durant, The Story of Philosophy

I will always carry some version of the ten essentials, however, in a metropolitan environment, I recognize (and this was hard at first) that I can greatly reduce my burden and become more approachable. Being more approachable and comfortable with a reduced load has several benefits to flânerie. More ease of movement for one. Better engagement with others more importantly.

Avoidance

The most reliable way of overcoming anxiety and situational avoidance is the maxim: FEAR—Face Everything And Recover. Supported by numerous clinical trials, the principle of facing your fears until your anxiety reduces is one of the cornerstones of CBT.

The key here is dosage control. Or, in physical fitness terms, how many repetitions per set, how many sets, and how much total load? The answer is “it depends.”

My therapist put it this way: expose yourself to the situation or environment for as long as it takes for your stress response to subside, then (and only then), withdraw. Return and do it again. You may notice that it takes less time for your stress to subside with each exposure.

During these ‘confrontations’, aim for ‘manageable exposure’. That way you can successfully experience facing your fears and mastering them. Too easy and you won’t progress. Too hard and you may resort to escape, avoidance, or safety behaviors.

It is with instincts as with organs; they are the tools of the mind; and like all organs that are attached and permanent, they become burdens when the environment that needed them has disappeared. Instinct comes ready-made, and gives decisive—and usually successful—responses to stereotyped and ancestral situations; but it does not adapt to organism change, it does not enable man to meet the fluid complexities of modern life. It is the vehicle of security, while intellect is the organ of an adventurous liberty. It is life taking on the blind obedience of the machine.

Will Durrant, The Story of Philosophy

How to Flânerie for the Flâneur Moderne et Inquiet

Or more correctly, how I will try and some discussion as to why I will do it a certain way.

You have your way, I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.

Friedrich Nietzsche

First, let’s review the beginning of this article and flesh out a mindset or philosophy. We should have a clear ‘Why’ before we proceed to the ‘hows’ and ‘whats’. In essence, a flâneur moderne synthesizes a slower pace of life, a keen interest in their surroundings, and a curious outlook.

“Curiosity and Interest” is one of my character strengths, so I’ll lean into that. It’s about the journey, not the destination.

Flânerie is about immersion, observing, and embracing the unexpected. Curiosity is my compass as I delve into the city, savoring its details, and appreciating its nuances and complexities. Add to that the ability to report my findings.

Now, how? To follow are several strategies and tactics that I’ll use for my flânerie.

(1) Reduce my kit. I’m purchasing a smaller bag for everyday carry (EDC), which will require me to reduce my EDC load. I’m also getting something less ‘tactical’ or military (my wife’s main complaint).

(2) Walk, don’t rush. I am not in a hurry.

(3) Research but don’t overplan. What does this look like? For example, I recently went to an area called “Coventry Village” because I needed to go to a store there (BLICK Art, for my highlighter fix). I looked at Apple Maps and found Mayfield Cemetary to be across the street. This runs into Lakeview Cemetary. The Garfield Memorial is there (as in the often forgotten but very important to Cleveland, President Garfield). According to another app, there are several historical sites in the area as well. That’s it. That’s all the research I did.

(4) Speaking of research, use technology wisely. Technology—smartphones, and apps are handy for navigation, information, documentation, and even emergencies, but don’t let them make decisions for you or hinder the adventure.

(5) Document the journey. I’ll record journeys and review my findings here at Whale Lines.

(6) Stay flexible and maintain a positive, open-minded attitude.

(7) I can connect flânerie to a destination such as a specific store (as in the example above), or even to a historical or cultural destination, but not to a series. A series of destinations isn’t flânerie; it’s errands. That tends to create a sense of urgency in the day and is a barrier to optionality and exploration.

There was no where to go but everywhere.

Jack Kerouac

As a kid, I tended to be wide-eyed and curious roaming freely and unburdened by life’s responsibilities. But as for most, life became increasingly rushed, pre-planned, and devoid of randomness.

Today we are constantly connected, over-informed (sometimes falsely), never open to boredom, and stuck in the predictable. We’ve become addicted to bite-sized information and allergic to contemplative thought.

I am going to push back through unhurried exploration, embracing chance encounters, celebrating uncertainty and diversity, and taking more rational risks.

The way of the Flâneur Moderne et Inquiet promotes prosochê (Greek – attention, diligence, Stoic mindfulness) and a sharpening of perception. This in turn opens you up to a sense of awe and wonder within the complexities of the metropolis or the simplest of neighborhoods.

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Fish Tagine

Fish Tagine

Fish Tagine

Flavorful Moroccan fish dish. This feeds two to three people as is. Add sides to feed four. A traditional tagine is fun but not necessary. I've made a double batch of this in my round, heavy-lidded, Dutch oven.
Prep Time 30 minutes
Cook Time 30 minutes
Course Main Course
Cuisine Moroccan
Servings 4 people

Equipment

  • 1 Traditional Tagine A Dutch oven with a heavy lid will work just as well

Ingredients
  

  • 1 tbsp olive oil
  • 1 whole onion chopped
  • 4 cloves garlic minced
  • 3-4 pieces white fish cod or halibut
  • 2 tbsp ras al hanout find in specialty stores, like Whole Foods, or make yourself
  • 1 tbsp dry parsley flakes
  • 1/4 tsp salt kosher
  • 1/4 cup parsley, fresh chopped
  • 1/4-1/2 cop Kalamata olives chopped
  • 1 large handful cherry tomatoes halved
  • 1/4 cup water
  • 1 spoonful harissa find in specialty stores, like Whole Foods

Instructions
 

  • Add each ingredient in layers, in the order listed
  • Onion, garlic, and then fish.
    Fish on top of onion and garlic
  • Ras-al hout.
  • Dry parsley and salt.
  • Fresh parsley, olives, and cherry tomatoes,
  • Water and harissa.
  • Cover and cook on the stove top for about 30 minutes, on medium-low.
  • Serve on a bed of couscous.
Keyword fish
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Personal Leadership & Management Part IV: The Ultimate Mission & Grand Strategy

In case you missed it in Part III of this series, we fleshed out our identities and roles. We stopped short then of drafting your mission statement. I find it easier to walk backward from our concrete roles and identities into our abstract values and mission. These are easier to understand and articulate if you’ve thought about how you want them to affect the various spheres of your life and the specific actions you need to take.

I was also delaying, as much as possible, giving you examples of others’ mission statements. That is to not tempt you to copy others. This is about writing YOUR script in alignment with YOUR values. We are blindly accepting the scripts given to us by culture. This is about pushing back and analyzing before accepting and creating your own idiosyncratic creed.

You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.

Friedrich Nietzsche

This mission statement should focus your energies and resources, and prevent distraction by giving you a sense of orientation and purpose. If you draft your own you’ll be more self-directed.

If you want to win the war for attention, don’t try to say ’no’ to the trivial distractions you find on the information smorgasbord; try to say ‘yes’ to the subject that arouses a terrifying longing, and let the terrifying longing crowd out everything else.

David Brooks, The Art of Focus

Now, all that said, here are two short ones from persons you may know:

My mission in life is not not to merely survive but to thrive, to do so with some passion, compassion, humor, and style.

Maya Angelou

I shall
not fear anyone on earth.
fear only God.
not bear ill will toward anyone.
not submit to injustice from anyone.
conquer untruth with truth.
and in resisting untruth, I shall put up with all suffering.

Gandhi

And an anonymous one I plagiarized from the inter-webs:

I will…
Be kind and proactive in developing and sustaining connections with family and friends, to be regarded as a successful spouse, father, son, brother, uncle, and friend.
Always behave with integrity and never compromise on honesty.
Intend to approach life with a curious mind.
Take care of my health by frequently exercising, eating healthily, and avoiding anything that may damage my body.
Remember when things get rough, there are so many things for which I am grateful. I will give back to the community through donations and volunteering.

Anonymous

Remember, this doesn’t have to be perfect. Just get started. You can refine and modify it over time—in fact, you should review it daily for at least 30 days, and weekly for 120 days. As previously stated, the process is as important as the product.

Personal leadership is not a singular experience. It doesn’t begin and end with the writing of a personal mission statement. It is, rather, the ongoing process of keeping your vision and values before you and aligning your life to be congruent with those most important things.

Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Your Grand Strategy

Let’s begin by putting the title at the top: “My Ultimate Strategy,” or something like that. Next a subheading: “Ultimate Purpose.” Then your statement of that. For example, “to actualize my potential in service of my wife, family, friends, and sphere of influence.”

Creed

The next subheading is “Personal Creed.” Here’s where you can flesh out the ‘why’ above with some ‘how’ and ‘what’. Here (at least in mine) you may start to see influences from others. This also begins to seem like your own philosophy. Not only is that okay, but it’s actually the point. A ‘creed’ is essentially a statement of philosophy. According to the Cambridge Dictionary, a creed is “a set of beliefs that influences the way you live.” According to the American Heritage Dictionary, a creed is “a system of beliefs, principles, or opinions,” and “any summary of principles or opinions professed or adhered to.”

Note, this is not so specific as to say, “In five years I will…” Those are plans or long-term goals. This instead is deep and wide, meant to guide decisions about goals. It’s not about the ‘what’, it’s about the ‘why’ and some guidance as to the ‘how’. We will address the ‘what’ and ‘how’—goals, commitments, and planning—later in the article.

Character Strengths

The next subtitle or heading I like to list is “Character Strengths.” Here you can list your character strengths from the University of Pennsylvania test. I also write out their definitions as provided at Authentic Happiness.

For example: “Love of Learning—I love learning new things, whether in class or on my own. I have always loved travel, school, reading, and museums—anywhere and everywhere there is an opportunity to learn.”

My other top character strengths are Gratitude and Compassion, Bravery and Valor, Curiosity and Interest in the World, and Awe.

This list can help me make decisions about what to do monthly, weekly, and even daily. Remember, positive psychologists have proved that people who actualize their character strengths daily are happier at work and play. “Should I take this job?” becomes “Does this opportunity lead to eudaemonia and fulfillment by allowing me to use my character strengths?”

The second advantage to knowing and reviewing this list is seeking opportunities to grow in areas of weakness. To take some proactive steps to improve your character. Using this reference, I can set up “training missions” for improvement or ‘exposures’ for incremental growth.

Maxims & Operating Principles

My next two sub-headings are “Maxims” and “Operating Principles.” Maxims are succinct formulations of a fundamental principle, a condensed proposition of important practical truth, a rule of conduct, or an axiom of practical wisdom.

As previously discussed, principles allow you to live a life consistent with your values—they operationalize your values.

Principles are fundamental truths that serve as the foundations for behavior that get you what you want in your life. They can be applied again and again in similar situations to help you achieve your goals.

Ray Dalio, Principles of Life and Work

Maxims and Principles then are like time-tested heuristics. You can develop your own, or modify, through experience, those of others. Marcus Aurelius’ Meditations can be seen as his private spiritual practice of copying and then reformatting the thoughts and teachings of the Stoic Philosopher Epictetus.

My Maxims (principles I found important enough to tattoo on my wrists) are: “Always Be Orienting” and “Prepared and Active.”

The first is a quote from John Boyd, of “OODA Loop” fame. The second is a distillation of Seneca’s wisdom:

Let Fate find us prepared and active. Here is the great soul—the one who surrenders to Fate. The opposite is the weak and degenerate one who struggles with and has a poor regard for the order of the world and seeks to correct the faults of the gods rather than their own.

Seneca, Moral Letters, 107.12

I won’t bore you with my full list of Principles. It’s a list that needs some culling and reformatting, anyway. But for examples, here are a few:

  • Internal Locus of Focus–I take “Extreme Ownership.” I focus all of my energy within my spheres of control and influence. I do not concern myself or worry about things over which I have no control.
  • Stress is information.
  • Growth resist entropy.
  • What’s Important Now (WIN)?–detach, observe, and [re]orient, then prioritize and execute.
  • Always stay a student.
  • I move toward the resistance, out of my comfort zone, as it is on the edges that you will learn and grow.
  • I train for hardship and pain.
  • I seek the narrow path–the middle way.

Domain Strategies

Now, lastly, under the subtitle “Domain Strategies,” I list high-level strategies for each of the identities of “Self” (or “Energy”), “Vocation” (or “Work”), and “Love” (or “Relationships”). Under the “Self” identity I have an over-arching domain strategy and strategies for each valence (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual).

These can all be drafted much in the same way detailed in Part III. Step one is to block out time for undisturbed deep work. Step two is to ensure you have defined and prioritized your identities and roles. You need to know and define them. This helps to guide long-term, short-term, and even moment-to-moment goals and decisions.

Step three is defining your purpose for each role and identity. Roles tend to be other-focused (relationships and vocation), therefore, as previously mentioned, we also need to establish goals and commitments for ourselves in each valence.

Next, step four, is to look at each identity, role, and life where you have established personal goals and, being brutally honest, define your current reality. Change and growth can only begin with honesty.

In step five, you establish specific action steps—commitments—for each goal.

We will use my Physical Valence as an example: “Train every day with mission-specific purpose, to be strong, durable, and useful. Some commitments are to “program for the year and your ‘Centenarian Decathlon’.” This covers the “Energy” or “Self” identity.

You can’t achieve primary greatness by neglecting yourself—your health, your mind, your emotional and spiritual life. Each of these vital areas of your life needs constant, even daily, renewal. Pushing the lever a bit every day can offset a slow or even catastrophic downward decline in your personal energy and even save your life.

Stephen Covey, Primary Greatness

Now you do the same for your Relationships and Vocation identities. Feel free to flesh these out as much as you want, but remember this is your Grand Strategy. It is meant to provide high-level guidance to your later decisions about daily, weekly, and monthly plans. Think of it this way: the Grand Strategy is the marrow and bone. You’ll add the flesh and muscle later.

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My pre-retirement Vocation can serve as an example here. “I am a professional Law Enforcement Officer. I am a scholar, statesman, and guardian. I commit to lifelong learning. I will engage the communities I serve. I will honor my Oath, perform my duties to the best of my ability, and actively pursue my potential. I will prepare to be someone’s hope in their time of need.” I plagiarized this from “VALOR for Blue” after attending their train-the-trainer program.

Note the way the above is formatted. They are first a vision—”Professional Law Enforcement Officer”—defined—”Scholar, Statesman, Guardian”—as I would want people to speak of me at my funeral. Then there are several ‘commitments.’ These commitments are what I believe will achieve the legacy or vision. Why commitments and not goals?

Commitments: the Bridge Between Vision & Goals

Vision is a broad, all-encompassing, and open-ended conceptualization of how you want your life to be ‘in the future’. A vision allows for adaptability as reality changes, applying OODA looping to your personal development, and reorienting with new knowledge of yourself and the environment.

Lacking the deeper meaning found in a vision, goals are specific, measurable, and time-bound objectives a person aims to achieve. They provide a focal point for your resources, actions, and decisions. Goals are more concrete than intentions but are often outcome-based, rather than behavior-based.

While we need goals—we are teleological as Socrates says—there is a psychological phenomenon known as ‘goal lock’. Goal-lock is a self-defeating single-mindedness that can lead to depression and anxiety, even if you do achieve the goal. Stories abound of Olympians having won gold and sunk into the depression of “now what?”

So visions provide purpose and goals provide a target. How do we get from here to there? Commitments. A goal is something you want to do: I want to lose 20 pounds in six months.” A commitment imports that goal, becoming something you have to do.

As we make and keep commitments, even small commitments, we begin to establish an inner integrity that gives us the awareness of self-control, and the courage and strength to accept more of the responsibility for our own lives. By making and keeping promises to ourselves and others, little by little, our honor becomes greater than our moods. -Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People

“My vision is to lose weight in six months to look and feel good” and “My goal is to exercise every day and lose 20 pounds in six months.” Therefore, “I commit to walking 10,000 steps every day; to doing 100 kettlebell swings and 10 get-ups every day; to doing power yoga every Monday, Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday.” Now, I can’t guarantee those specific commitments will accomplish your vision (you can’t outwork a bad diet), but I think you get my point.

Commitments should describe only a minimal necessary amount of the behavior you want to do in support of your goals. Commitments can be about what you will do or get to do generating a positive emotion. They can also be ‘bright line’ don’t dos. These are most helpful in the face of peer pressure: “I don’t drink alcohol on work nights,” or “I don’t eat that.” These types of commitments make it easier to act in accordance with your identity, vision, and goals.

A last word about commitments. ‘Commitment devices’ are any techniques that help people commit to a behavior. These could include contracts or pledges, and even accountability buddies. From the study of human behavior and habits, we also have “Odysseus Contracts,” aka “pre-commitments.”

The Odysseus Contract is a commitment device that allows us to make a choice in the present that binds us to an action or a decision in the future. A simple example is sometimes referred to as using your willpower on offense, rather than defense. That is, don’t buy junk food at the store, and then you won’t have it on hand at the house when your willpower is weak.

Now you have a complete first draft. Therefore it’s time for the final and most important step: Evaluation and editing. Stephen Covey offers a series of questions well suited to this evaluation process:

1) Is my mission based on timeless, proven principles? Which ones?
2) Do I feel this represents the best that is within me?
3) During my best moments, do I feel good about what this represents?
4) Do I feel direction, purpose, challenge, and motivation when I review this statement?
5) Am I aware of the strategies and skills that will help me accomplish what I have written?
6) What do I need to start doing now to be where I want to be tomorrow?
7) Does this statement inspire me?

Stephen Covey, Primary Greatness

If this is your first time drafting a mission statement or grand strategy, I’d recommend visiting this evaluation and editing process every day for at least 30 days. When we start talking about ‘personal management’, you will learn the benefit of reviewing this once a week as part of your weekly review and planning. That’s for making sure your weekly plans are in alignment. The first thirty days are for embedding the Ultimate Mission and Grand Strategy into your psyche.

I’d also suggest having this “ready at hand”—in your phone or a pocket notebook—so you can refer to it in the moment of decision-making.

And that completes the first half of this series. In parts I through IV we covered Personal Leadership. Stay tuned for further installments where we will shit to Personal Management.

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Personal Leadership & Management Part III: Roles and Identities

In this part three of the series, let’s start with a thought experiment that distills down the most important takeaways from part two. Think about traveling forward in time, arriving at your funeral. Imagine now witnessing your funeral. Family, friends, and former and current co-workers are all there; they each give a eulogy about you.

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Really ‘feel into’ the scene. Where is it? What does it look like? What’s the weather like? Is there music? Write down who is in attendance: wife, husband, kids? Your boss? Former trainees? Friends and co-workers? Now write down what they are saying about you.

Returning to the present, consider those statements. Can you boil them down to single words or phrases representing the values and virtues you aim for, your character strengths and principles? Finally, are you currently living in alignment with those ideals? If the words of your eulogy are your legacy, are you doing, right now, those things that will build that legacy?

If the answer is “no,” then stick around for further installments of this series, where we will talk about ‘training missions.’

Recently I’ve been thinking about the difference between the résumé virtues and the eulogy virtues, The résumé virtues are the ones you list on your résumé, the skills that you bring to the job market and that contribute to external success. The eulogy virtues are deeper. They’re the virtues that get talked about at your funeral, the ones that exist at the core of your being—whether you are kind, brave, honest or faithful; what kind of relationships you formed.

David Brooks, The Road to Character

Before we carry on with our main topic—defining our roles and drafting our mission statement—consider another question: “Who are you when you have been at your best? What did you do? And what did you not do?”

Hell is where the person you are meets the person you could have become, moments before your death.

Apocryphal

Roles

As you make an honest assessment of your answers to the questions, with deep reflection and self-examination, you may begin to identify and define the many roles or areas of responsibility you have.

Remember those persons at your imagined funeral who bore witness to your legacy? Some of these roles pertain to them. Are you a life partner, or parent? Maybe you are a teacher or field training officer, or a supervisor or mentor.

Here’s my long list:

  • Husband
  • Brother
  • Son-in-law
  • Brother-in-law (seven times over)
  • Uncle (five times over)
  • Homeowner, oops, apartment tenant
  • Retired Law Enforcement Officer
  • Coach/Trainer
  • Philosopher (though I know I’m supposed to keep that a secret)
  • Writer
  • Teacher
  • Website manager

We can now discern two broad categories: Relationships and Vocation.

Love and work…work and love, that’s all there is.

Sigmund Freud

Poet David Whyte, in his book The Three Marriages, describes a triumvirate of marriage-like commitments we should maintain for wholeness: marriage to our vocation, marriage to another (something or someone beyond ourselves), and marriage to ourselves. Brian Johnson, borrowing from Freud and Jim Loehr concurs. We have three ‘identities’ Johnson says: Energy (self), Work (our vocation), and Love (our relationships).

I encourage you to define these identities by name and description. Within these identities, you can consolidate or categorize your roles. Here are my current ones: “Hero in Training,” “Jedi Master” (very long story I’ll tell you someday over a beer), and “Heroic Husband.”

Understand these are not rigid or set in stone. They can and should be flexible enough to change with time. As you enter different phases of life you drop old commitments, and pick up new ones; relationships come and go.

Love and work are the cornerstones of our humanness.

Sigmund Freud

Work and Love. Two fundamental aspects of human existence. Freud’s two statements above encapsulate the significance of these two interdependent elements of our identity and purpose.

Love

Love in its various forms, plays a central role in the human experience. Encompassing romantic relationships, familial bonds, friendships, and even the casual wave to a neighbor or smile to the barista, love represents the emotional connection and support we seek and provide.

It is through love that we build connections, experience joy, and find comfort. It nurtures us, creating a safe space where we can be vulnerable. It shapes our relationships allowing us to form deep connections that foster growth.

Vocation

Without love, life might lack meaning and purpose. Work on the other hand represents the practical aspects of our lives. Through our vocations, we express our skills, contribute to society, and fulfill our ambitions.

Whether through an occupation, a hobby, or a passion project, engaging in work allows us to express ourselves, develop a sense of purpose, and feel a sense of accomplishment. Furthermore, vocation has the potential to enhance our self-esteem and provide financial stability. By investing our time and effort into a vocation, we also contribute to the collective progress of humanity.

The Dichotomy

In their symbiotic relationship, love and work interact and influence each other. Love can inspire and motivate us in our professional endeavors. Similarly, the fulfillment and satisfaction derived from our vocations can positively impact our relationships. When we find meaning and purpose in our vocation, we often bring a sense of contentment and stability to our love life.

Work-life balance is a myth. As with most dichotomies, there is a middle way, but it is not to be found in a balancing act. The phrase ‘work-life balance’ seems to imply that one is ‘good’ and the other ‘bad.’ But, work is part of life. It is more akin to Aristotle’s ‘golden mean.’ Too much and too little work is a vice. Same for life. Virtue then is found in the middle of both. Harmonizing the two promotes emotional and psychological well-being.

Often society places an overwhelming emphasis on work, equating success with professional achievements, material wealth, and recognition. This perspective can lead to a neglect of love and relationships. Similarly, an excessive focus on love without a sense of purpose or vocational fulfillment can also result in an unfulfilled existence. Finding an equilibrium then is essential for leading a meaningful and satisfying life.

By nurturing relationships and pursuing work that aligns with our passions and values, we cultivate a sense of fulfillment that permeates all aspects of our lives. This requires introspection and self-awareness. It involves understanding our priorities, values, and goals.

Energy of Self

How do we show up fully engaged in our relationships and vocation? As previously discussed, with full, positive energy. Energy management in four valences: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual.

Covey details an energy renewal process he calls “Sharpen the Saw” in his 7 Habits book. He further recommends a one-hour “daily private victory” ritual in which you renew all four valences. Alternatively, you could scatter these throughout your week. I suggest you also have ‘rituals’ you can do to sustain your energy throughout the day and as an emergency bolus as needed at any time.

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“Sharpen the Saw” tends to go by the term ‘self-care’ nowadays, and you may have heard witticisms such as “put your oxygen mask on first before helping others.” I like the older “an empty well draws no water.” Regardless the principle is the same: taking the time to renew the four valences makes us more effective in our life’s work and purpose.

Investing in self-care may seem indulgent on antithetical to productivity but it defends you against exhaustion and mental or emotional collapse. In addition, it increases your sense of agency, effectiveness, and competency.

We all have a moral obligation to the people who are important in our lives, as well as to ourselves, to learn and progress without ceasing.

Stephen Covey, Primary Greatness

We are going to discuss them individually but know that they are interconnected. One renewing action may indirectly impact more than just the valence that it directly targets. For example, exercise improves, intentionally, your physical valence, but also your emotional life.

Physical

Sharpening the saw physically—exercising, eating the right foods, getting adequate rest, avoiding harmful substances, having regular physical checkups—significantly increases the likelihood that we’ll make good choices in decision moments. It also increases our options, as good health becomes a resource from which we can do so much more. Our body is a fundamental stewardship; it’s the instrument through which we work to fulfill all other stewardships and responsibilities.

Stephen Covey, Primary Greatness

Most everyone is aware of the big three: exercise, nutrition, and sleep. These three do the heavy lifting of the physical valence. Begin with these and make them non-negotiable. Once you get these dialed in you can start experimenting:

  • Naps
  • Hot and/or cold therapies
  • Massage and other bodywork
  • Nutritional supplementation

We’re talking here about maintenance and renewal, not training for the Olympics. If a specific sport is your thing, great. Just remember, the mistake most amateur athletes make is not enough recovery. We will talk later about training specific to growing your physical energy. Right now we are just talking about optimizing your current physical energy level. Test and experiment until you find a protocol that makes you feel tip-top.

Mental

Meaningful mental renewal empowers us to transcend the limited wisdom of our environment in decision moments and keeps our minds sharp and clear and well-exercised for ready use.

Stephen Covey, Primary Greatness

If you are a knowledge worker (over 1 billion of us worldwide as of 2020) then you know the mental strain of the 8-10-12 hour workday. Many run this like an ultra-marathon. I would suggest instead a series of ‘sprints’ of no more than 90 minutes with a lengthy break (15 minutes?) before the next session. Another option is a version of the “Pomodoro” technique: 25 minutes on and 5 minutes off.

The key here is that you do anything but ‘work’ during the break period. No email, social media, texts, voicemail, Slack, or other messaging apps and services.

Probably one of the best things you could do for mental renewal during these breaks is something physical—a set of body weight exercises, quick up and down some flights of stairs, some sprints in the parking lot—“vigorous intermittent exercise activity,” aka: “exercise snacks.” Or take a walk, get some sun, drink some water, eat some protein, or a low glycemic index snack. Try five minutes of breathing exercises.

How about when you’re not at work? What are mentally renewing activities in those times? Here are some of my favorites, and, again, the idea is to stretch the mind, not flog it with more work:

  • Read “great works” of fiction
  • Read poetry
  • Thought-provoking podcasts
  • Study a new language
  • Learn to play a musical instrument
  • Take an online course
  • Attend a lecture at a local college, library, or ‘town hall’
  • Join a discussion group or book club
  • Visit a museum
  • Watch documentaries

Emotional

One of the best ways to educate our heart is to look at our interaction with other people, because our relationships with others are fundamentally a reflection of our relationship with ourselves.

When we don’t listen to or live by our conscience, we tend to blame and accuse other people in an attempt to justify our inner dissonance. If we have a sense of mission and principles to measure ourselves against, we benchmark against other people instead of our own potential. We’re into comparative thinking and win-lose mentality. We become self-centered and autobiographical. We impose our motives on the actions of others. We see their strengths and weaknesses in terms of how they affect us. We empower their weaknesses to control us.

Stephen Covey, Primary Greatness

Covey called this valence “Social/Emotional,” whereas the Corporate Athlete materials refer to “Emotional.” Call it what you will, without emotional balance, your social life will be difficult. When your emotional energy is high and positive, you seem to glide with an even keel despite storms or choppy seas.

Specific to positive emotional energy renewal, try:

Spiritual

Renewing activities in the spiritual dimension—meditation, prayer, formal religious activity, altruistic service, studying the wisdom and ‘sacred’ literature, memorizing and reviewing a personal mission statement—nurture the big picture context and the contribution focus of ‘true north.’ This renewal plays a vital role in the education of the heart. It’s the basis for deciding what ‘first things’ are. It gives us the passion and the power to subordinate the less important to the more important. It empowers us to transcend the powerful influences of urgency and expediency.

Stephen Covey, Primary Greatness

Your core, your why (Simon Sinek), your inner citadel (Epictetus and Marcus Aurelius), and that “old roll top desk where you really keep your stuff” (Vice Admiral James Stockdale)—the spiritual energy valence—gives rise to your sense of purpose in life. It’s the fertile soil to propagate your ultimate mission, and the well you draw from to water and grow your grand strategy.

‘Spirituality’—just as practical as any other valence—can be a force multiplier for your vocations and love, leading to a more purpose-driven and fulfilling life.

Only he who is capable of a genuine encounter with the other is capable of an authentic encounter with himself, and the converse is equally true… From this perspective, every spiritual exercise is a dialogue, insofar as it is an exercise of authentic presence, to oneself and to others.

Pierre Hadot, Philosophy as a Way of Life

The way to spiritual energy renewal and growth is through habits of spiritual disciplines and practices:

  • Study scripture (what Covey calls “the great wisdom or sacred literature”)
  • Study Philosophy
  • Self-examination, a la Socrates
  • Silence/Solitude
  • Gratitude
  • Radical Compassion,” a la Tara Brach
  • Prayer
  • Meditation
  • Nature and “forest bathing
  • Journaling
  • Writing and reviewing your Ultimate Mission and Grand Strategy

Drafting Your Identities, Roles, & Mission Statement

By now you should have some idea of your roles and identities. From parts I and II of this series, you also should have some sense of your values, virtues, and character strengths. And don’t forget that thought experiment of visiting your funeral or the question “Who are you when you are at your best?”

All this is to say before you can live a meaningful life—pursuing eulogy virtues and flourishing—you need to know how you want people to talk about you so you can act now to make that scenario play out.

Following Covey’s advice we are not just making a list of ideals. Instead, he suggests a ‘constitution’ based on timeless and unchanging principles, virtues, and values that you want to embody.

Caveat Emptor

Two more things to remember: first, the end product isn’t as important as the process itself. It’s the journey, not the destination.

Writing a mission statement changes you because it forces you to think through your priorities deeply, carefully, and to align your behavior with your beliefs.

Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

The journey is the intentional thinking about what it means to you to live a good life. Furthermore, this is not a one-and-done. It’s a lifelong journey.

Which leads to caveat number two. For it to be useful you have to return to your ‘constitution’ over and over again. Both to check if your decision-making and actions are in alignment and as a spiritual practice for grounding the internal and external life.

Step 1: Set Aside Uninterrupted Time

As mentioned here you need blocks of uninterrupted time to do some ‘deep work.’ Two to four hours on a weekend—perhaps two on Saturday and two more on Sunday, or multiple Saturdays. Whatever best works for you.

If you don’t have ‘Walden Space’—quiet space at home—try a coffee shop, library, or natural park setting. Want to go deep? Check into a hotel room like Maya Angelou or J.K. Rowling.

Step 2: Identities & Roles

Covey recommends no more than six roles. We discussed the idea of three ‘marriages’ or identities (self, vocation, love). I tend to view this as a taxonomy of sorts. For example, the four valences are classified under ‘self’, husband under ‘love’, and writer under ‘work’.

Seen as a taxonomy, for some of my relationships, I can default to my love identity for decision-making. New projects or tasks? What does my vocation identity say? So for me, it starts looking something like this:

Work Identity: “Jedi Master”— Scholar/Teacher/Philosopher
Roles: retired law enforcement officer, website manager, coach/mentor, trainer

Step 3: Define the Why of Each Role

If you haven’t already, it’s time to define the high-level purpose of each identity and role. You may have some intrinsic sense of the purposes, but writing them out, and articulating them on paper, is therapeutic and results in a renewable, amendable document.

According to James Pennebaker, expressive writing allows you to openly acknowledge and accept emotions, being then able to give voice to blocked feelings, thereby constructing a meaningful story. Furthermore, you improve your ability to make causal links among life events and increase your capacity for introspection.

Write down the identity or role. One piece of paper for each role (or identity). Now think back to your funeral thought experiment. Write out the values, virtues, and character strengths—your best self—you want to embody in this role or identity. What do you want the people you affect in that role to say about you when you’re dead? Who are you when you are at your best in these roles? How do you embody these identities? What do you think? Say? Do?

Now take that and refine it, pair it down, and cut out any repetition. The more simple you can make these statements the better.

Step 4: Review Often & Amend as Needed

When to review? The most obvious time to review your mission statement is before any ‘big’ decisions and during any ‘major’ life change. The major life change can also prompt, or necessitate, amendment. Take retirement, for example. When I retired my vocational identity and roles changed in a major way. I needed to completely redefine my vocational identity and my roles.

Stephen Covey says to review your mission statement and purpose(s) once a week before determining your role-based goals and planning your weekly activities. The actions and tasks you prioritize that week then are in alignment, with your longer-term role-based goals, your identities and values, character strengths, principles, and virtues.

I used to follow David Allen’s Getting Things Done (GTD) weekly review and processing, then review my Grand Strategy document before planning my week. I’ve noticed that post-retirement, I am not doing that weekly (part of the reason for this whole refresher process). How I use GTD, how you might (or might not), and role-based goals, are the topics for future articles.

Wrap Up

Now you should have ‘Identities’ and ‘Roles’ defined with their purpose statements drafted. You should have recorded your top five character strengths, and maybe another five you want to work on developing. So too, your values and virtues, and maybe some principles aligned with these and in support of your identities and roles.

In the next article of this series, we will drop in the last components of personal leadership: role-based goals and commitments. Then I’ll show you how I formatted all of this in a ‘Grand Strategy.’

Until then review and continue to refine your identities and roles, and maybe start to consider what goals you might have for each of those.

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Turkey Noodle Soup

I have a confession to make. This soup is my favorite part of Thanksgiving leftovers. Many people like warming up a plate of potatoes, yams, beans, turkey and stuffing (or ‘dressing’, if that’s your thing). Others like turkey sandwiches (someone I know grew up eating leftover turkey with mayonnaise and green olives on white bread).

All that aside, what follows is my Turkey Noodle Soup recipe.

Turkey Noodle Soup

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A turkey noodle soup using your Thanksgiving turkey carcass. This is a great use of and my favorite part of Thanksgiving leftovers.
Prep Time 2 days
Cook Time 16 hours
Course Main Course
Cuisine American
Servings 8 or more

Equipment

  • 2 Large pots 1 pot for noodles (> 4 quarts) and 1 for soup (6 or more quarts)
  • knife
  • cutting board

Ingredients
  

  • 2 onions
  • 1 head of celery
  • 1 turkey carcass (all the bones, neck, and "Pope's Nose")
  • 10-12 quarts water
  • 2 tbsp extra virgin olive oil
  • 1-2 pounds turkey meat much of this is on the carcass; some may need to be added
  • 4 large carrots
  • salt to taste
  • pepper to taste
  • sage, ground to taste

Instructions
 

Making the Stock

  • Remove any skin and stuffing from the carcass. Put the carcass in a large Dutch oven or pot and cover it with water. Add one onion, quartered, and several celery stalks.
    Bring to a boil then reduce the heat and simmer for 6 to 8 hours, stirring occasionally. When you check it to stir, skim off any fat that has risen to the top.

The 'Great Separation'

  • This step needs to be done in stages unless you have a gallon-sized fat separator.
    Pour liquid into a fat separator. When the fat rises to the top, pour the stock into jars or other containers.
    Now pick through all the solids. You want to discard all the cartilage, skin, vegetables, and bones. Reserve all the meat. This can be a tedious process but it is well worth ensuring you don't choke on a bone.

Making the Soup

  • Finely dice one medium onion and several stalks of celery. Put one tablespoon of avocado or olive oil into your soup pot and heat on medium. Add the onion and sauté until golden. Add the celery and sauté until soft.
    Add three to four sliced carrots.
    Now add the stock and the meat. Bring to a simmer on low. Stir occasionally.
    While the soup simmers, in a separate pot, boil the extra-wide egg noodles per the package instructions. When done, drain the noodles and add them to the soup. Continue to simmer the soup for four to six hours. Add salt, pepper, and sage to taste.

Notes

Keyword leftovers, Thanksgiving, turkey
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